Parents pressuring me to get married, but I'm gay

What should I do? I'm not interested in women. Since I'm the oldest of my siblings, my parents expect me to get married and start having children of my own. I'd rather spend my time around other guys, but obviously be celibate.

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Take a vow of celibacy and join a monastery. However if your prime motivation for being around men is driven by carnal desire then you should purge yourself of it before doing so. Do not take vows lightly.

First off, you aren't "gay," because the term implies that your homosexual desires are an inherent part of your nature. It's more accurate to say that you suffer from homosexual or same-sex temptation. Even if your desires are the result of a chemical imbalance or hormone thing while you were in development, it's not part of who you are, but rather a challenge given for you to overcome. If you'd pardon the metaphor, it's like an alcoholic that needs to fight to avoid drinking.
God bless you in your struggle because it's a tough one, but as an angel said to St. John the Long-Suffering, "It is to the strong and powerful servants that a master assigns the heavy work."

If I was in your shoes I would consider the monastic life since it's a position where you're unable to become married. Catholic priests can't get married either, so I suppose that's also an option. Though you should begome instead.
You could always just tell your parents that you're not attracted to women.

Of course I might add to this that the Sacrament of Matrimony isn't supposed to be taken as a shunt for carnal desire for women either. It may still be your calling. None of us here can do the contemplation you need to move forward in your stead, unfortunately.

This

I don't understand how a man could be gay tbh. How could you not be interested in women? Women are so beautiful and delicate and gentle (unless they're a fat dyke sjw). Sure they can cause trouble sometimes, but at the end of the day women were made for men.

Oh boy this isn’t bait at all

Thanks for the advice, user. I don't think it would be wise for me to live with men, though. I've been discerning the priesthood for years, and my SSA are one of the reasons why I don't think I want to pursue the vocation further (living in a seminary with other men, living in a rectory with other priests, etc).

I don't want to bring scandal to the Church, but I just want to live out my life peacefully. I don't want to disappoint my parents by not getting married, but I also feel the most comfortable around other men.

What's the Church's stance on non-sexual celibate relationships between men?


Thanks for replying, user.
Yeah, I think you're right. That's a good way to look at it. I've suffered from my SSA since I was a child (I'm in my early 20s now). I don't try to be a flamboyant arrogant homo or anything like that, but I've just never really had an attraction for women.


God bless you, thank you! I will have to maybe speak to a vocation director and he'll determine if I'm fit for that kind of life.


I want to, but I don't want to hurt their feelings.


I dunno, user. I'm just mentally ill.


not bait

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But if you’re serious quit your porn and start nofap also read the bible more and pray more also quit watching shit that support your SSA fetish

Now sub the word anime with any media of your choice and see how absurd this line of reasoning is. I'm not even a weeb but damn if the anti-anime posting isn't the most obvious astroturf designed to shut down discussion and alienate people that I've seen yet.

Tbh homosexuality is really just a fetish. If you started thinking about women more you might turn straight. Pray that God helps you.

if only you knew

Tbh, pornography is really soul crushing stuff, and the more you just keeping going down that rabbit hole the things you need to watch, to even get off just get weirder and weirder. Seriously Op i'd take a no fap attitude cause that stuff just literally corrupts. If you ever wanted empirical evidence of something that corrupts the soul, its pornography.

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Yeah I agree, it probably is one of the reasons the OP became gay. Porn has mind warping effects that can really winnie the pooh you up. Through some rehabilitation it might be possible to reverse its effects and make the OP into a loving husband to a loving wife with loving children.

I wouldn't say anti anime posting Is wrong but It's not entirely right either. Although I love some Japanese animations I can still recognize that there are some poor versions of the medium out there.

Like the anime pic OP posted, It has an unappealing & un-creative aesthetic to it.

I think people are just a little paranoid (rightfully so) because of the recent /r9k/ drama.

Honesty is the best policy. At the very least, you should let them know that you won't get married next time they directly ask.

no, we don't need faggots "fighting their urges" in monasteries and most likely committing sodomy with each other.

Putting fags in monasteries is like cohabiting straight guys with nuns….not gonna help


Just take a vow of celibacy and become a hermit/recluse.

On that we can agree. I'm from the old VHS hardsubbing days and would be perfectly fine if things went back to when there wasn't a mass market for the medium in the west.

Why do you sodomite reprobates always love anime so much?

I actually agree which is why I offered the caveat I did here .

Well /intl/ goons have always used animeposting as camouflage for when they try to create their sex trafficking networks. Even as far back as their ghostposting days. That its somehow only become an issue now smells fishy to me.

This. quality in most animation studios began to decrease after the medium became more mainstream. same with most industries

That's not to say that there are no more Interesting japanese animations anymore,It's just confined to a more lesser sum and even then most of It Is pretty degenerate.

I 70% love it. mostly the old ones

How much will be too much? I have been advocating for its ban here for a while.
Stop consuming degenerate media for a year and see how you fell first.

For the love of all that is holy, please don't become a preist. Just do what one of the other anons suggested and become a hermit/recluse. That would be best for you and the Christian community.

The Church doesn't need more sodomites in the clergy.


Every

Single

Time

Thanks for the advice, user.

I don't watch porn and I try to do NoFap for as long as I can, I don't watch anything homosexual in nature, either. I try to pray the rosary daily and I'll read more Scripture.


I've already dated women in the past and there was never any connection.


Yeah, that basically describes my childhood when I discovered porn.

Although I haven't actively been watching porn for a few years now. God bless.


ordodogs are schismatics tho


I think I was born with SSA, though. I've had feelings like this since I was a kid and before I even discovered porn or anything sexual.


I've told them a few times, but they give me a face each time that kills me inside. I always end up pretending it's a joke.

I come from a pretty tread region/country where getting married young is pretty normal. My father was only two years older than me when I was born.


This has unironically always interested me. Do you have any good reading material or sources about that lifestyle (if not that's ok)?


I'm not a sodomite.


What's wrong with anime?


I know, I won't. I'm not a sodomite, though. Why does the Church hate homosexuals so much?

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Do they believe you? It seems to me that they must already know.

Because the clergy is a position of trust which is all to easily abused by those likely to give into their compulsions. And especially today homosexuals are particularly quick to proselytize their degeneracy. And of course there is the larger political effort to encourage any vehicle by which they can undermine the Sacraments. So unsurprisingly a lot of us will be quick to anger on the subject.

Top kek! Okay, I'm sorry I called you a sodomite just because you said that.


Have you read the OT? That's pretty much all you need to know why we hate sodomites. But if you need more reasons:
1. It's satanic (it inverts the natural plan God has for us humans)
2. It's unhealthy (google: anal fissures, prolapsed anuses, the rate of STDs they get, Gay Bowel Syndrome, etc)

Just to name a few

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I don't know user, i've been following that reiko drama and I'm still confused as hell, I'm just tired of everything

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I'm sure you could probably make it well enough without telling them, and I can't exactly speak for how your family dynamic works, but it's probably better in the long run if you tell them. If they're putting pressure on you to get married and have kids, following a path where you say single will probably breed some resentment in the future unless they understand why you chose that path.

It's kind of a gray zone, but closer to black than white. Relationships between people of the same sex should stop at friendship, but remember that friends can be incredibly helpful and supportive of one another. Living under one roof with someone else that suffers from the same issue is almost always a no-no because it just makes life harder for the both of you. Exceptions exist but they require an immense amount of moral discipline.


Fundamentally, the Catholics don't. Homosexual priests are a hot-button issue because the Vatican does such a consistently poor job of handling scandals. Instead of defrocking abusive priests, they always seem to hush the issue and shuffle the abusive clergyman out to a new parish. It's absurd and I have no idea why they do this since the saved face is temporary.

It's just a medium of entertainment, but it's a ridiculously consistent trend here that people posting cute anime girls turn out to suffer from gay or trans temptations. After enough of these posts we've got a couple people that are convinced that anime makes you gay and are very happy to say so whenever anime girls are posted.

Kill yourself you disgusting fag.

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You're identifying with a fetish/lust, imagine if someone identified a porn watcher or if a woman said she was only attracted to watching gay men, it's all depravity. Christian Men who do have a high sex drive save it for their marriage, or else they crate another set of sins.


We don't 'hate' them in the way you're think, we are disappointing that they have fallen for this fabricated civil rights identity, and are unintentionally working to open the world government flood gates.


That's not christian.

Thieves don't turn others into thieves by stealing from them.
Murderers don't turn others into murderers by killing them.
Liars don't turn others into liars by lying to them.
Adulterers don't turn others (non-adulterers) into adulterers by having sex with them; they have sex with other adulterers.

But faggots intentionally groom others into faggotry, especially vulnerable teenage boys that have no idea what they're doing and are going through emotional turmoil that makes them very easy to influence, especially with sex. And it's also pretty well known that faggots have an obsession with youth and will discard "bottoms" when they look too old. And then there's the LGBTWTFBBQ movement, which proves beyond a shadow of a doubt that faggots don't want to just merely be tolerated, they want to remake society to approve of what they do and provide them with easier hunting grounds for sexually exploitable prey.

And let's make one more thing clear: while I would like homosexuals to be put to death, I don't hate faggots personally. I hate what faggots as a demographic do, and when you have an infestation, you do what you have to do to clear the infestation. I would prefer that faggots see the light, repent and be saved, but they may end up forcing some hands.

You’re twisting your own childhood, so you can claim your born that way so you can keep indulging in your sins, but the reason why your this way is because of this world which promotes sexuality, which is then presented to you on tv, movies, Games which you absorb when you were young and then you searched for sex on the internet when your older because it peek your curiosity and it’s so easy to find and then you tumbled Your way through a whole lot of degeneracy, society program you to become a degenerate realise it and then fight it

...

I think I'm noticing a pattern here

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I disagree on this one. There is a reason truth is central to the Gospel. Also you've got to calm down man. This "KILL ALL FAGS!!!111" mentality isn't healthy. We don't need to make a spectacle of their punishment. Excommunication and exile are enough should they blaspheme against the Holy Spirit.

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Just look at how they end up. The Gay Death phenomenon isn't a joke. That whole mess is far worse than anything we could do to them.

That verse doesn't say people struggling with same sex attraction should commit suicide. It says that people who actually engage in same sex intercourse should be executed. And whether that should be enforced in the same way in the new covenant is debatable, to say the least.

No one should ever commit suicide. Even if you committed murder or rape, the thing to do would be repent, pray for forgiveness, and turn yourself in to the proper authorities to deal with as they see fit.

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Daily reminder that when you start lusting for another man as a man or another woman as a woman, you are beyond hope of salvation.

Romans 1
18 For the wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all ungodliness and unrighteousness of men, who hold the truth in unrighteousness;
19 Because that which may be known of God is manifest in them; for God hath shewed it unto them.
20 For the invisible things of him from the creation of the world are clearly seen, being understood by the things that are made, even his eternal power and Godhead; so that they are without excuse:
21 Because that, when they knew God, they glorified him not as God, neither were thankful; but became vain in their imaginations, and their foolish heart was darkened.
22 Professing themselves to be wise, they became fools,
23 And changed the glory of the uncorruptible God into an image made like to corruptible man, and to birds, and fourfooted beasts, and creeping things.
24 Wherefore God also gave them up to uncleanness through the lusts of their own hearts, to dishonour their own bodies between themselves:
25 Who changed the truth of God into a lie, and worshipped and served the creature more than the Creator, who is blessed for ever. Amen.
26 For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature:
27 And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompence of their error which was meet.
28 And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient;
29 Being filled with all unrighteousness, fornication, wickedness, covetousness, maliciousness; full of envy, murder, debate, deceit, malignity; whisperers,
30 Backbiters, haters of God, despiteful, proud, boasters, inventors of evil things, disobedient to parents,
31 Without understanding, covenantbreakers, without natural affection, implacable, unmerciful:
32 Who knowing the judgment of God, that they which commit such things are worthy of death, not only do the same, but have pleasure in them that do them.

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The problem with that thinking is it has consequences in the future. Joshua and his warriors didn't follow Deuteronomy 12:1-2 and look what happened to Israel in the next book Judges? There was a resurgence of Canaanite 'gods' and child sacrifice. Eventually God punished them in Jeremiah for their insubordination.

Now look at our world today. We ignored Leviticus 20:13 and now there are pedophile rings raping kids, Traps luring and blackmailing impressionable boys into becoming sodomites, AIDS and other STDs are rampet in society, and the sodomites have to audacity to invert marriage.

Just like how God sent the Babylonians to punish Israel, he is sending the mooselimbs and commies to punish Europe and America.

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I'm not suggesting that we tolerate it, merely that the spectacle of execution encourages other behavior that is just as undesirable as sodomy. When I suggest exile it is not a mercy, the rotten secular world at large will do things to him that pale in comparison to being executed. If OP is honest and is not a sodomite, but has a problem that could lead him to a mortal sin, then it is our duty to help him.

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don't become Orthodox, we don't need fags

Man I need to proofread my posts better I got that backwards.

Repent

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doesn't sound like it to me

Deuteronomy 23
17 There shall be no whore of the daughters of Israel, nor a sodomite of the sons of Israel.
18 Thou shalt not bring the hire of a whore, or the price of a dog, into the house of the Lord thy God for any vow: for even both these are abomination unto the Lord thy God.

see
Romans 1 is about lust not action

Most of those ones on that list are legit but Leviticus 21:9 is if it's a daughter of a priest not just anyone. 2 Chronicles 15:12-13 was what man decided to do, not a command from God(at least I think that's the verse I'm thinking of). And Deuteronomy 13:13-19 is a special occasion.

t. didn't read Romans 1

uhhhh

and everything else in Romans 1
can YOU read?

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Because lust and action are both sinful.
Canst THOU readeth?

Hope you faggots all die, be it on AIDS or the rope. You aren't "gay" either, you aren't happy but filthy disgusting perverts in denial. Your entire existence is against everything that is holy, hence need to be purged as God commanded.

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You are some type of retard so let me break it down for you

marry then take viagra or masturbate too ejac into ur wife

These should be switched retard. You're a homo after God gives you over to a reprobate mind, not before.

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Boy, do I have some wonderful news for our sinning asses

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Romans 1:28 And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient;
Jeremiah 6:30 Reprobate silver shall men call them, because the Lord hath rejected them.
The requirement for salvation is belief in Jesus Christ. To be given over to a reprobate mind is to be made unable to repent. They have hardened their heart against God so God will harden their heart permanently.

who knows op it mite make u str8

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are you actually gay or did you just fall for some feminine looking traps online? cause that's totally different

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I suffer from SSA, I still like chicks but I also know I am attracted to men; I was also raped, thus like you I would rather live a life of chastity.
Maybe God calls you to be alone…alone with Him.

Can all of you fags please go to r/christian, that seems more of your type of place

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But Anderson said only those who commit the act of sodomy are destined for hell and not the one who once had the impulse. He says that in this interview,youtube.com/watch?v=hDqrX_WpnbM


orthodoxcounselor.com/Articles/John_Chrysostom_Homily_4.htm

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This so much.

It sounds poetic, like what's being said is that they embraced their lust for one another. This would then mean that it's a matter of mindset. If you experience SSA, do you try your best to mortify them or do you embrace them, indulge in them? In my mind, if lust is a flame then to "burn" in it is to allow yourself to be consumed and engulfed by it so it's still a matter of choice.

Yeah, but I just have sense of humour like that. They always end up believing I'm joking.

The problem is that my parents are even starting to get involved in the process of finding a wife (like finding potentials from among the daughters of their friends and their friends are doing the same with their children).

I'm going to be entering a career field where I can make a lot of money, so I guess some girls are interested because of that.


Yeah, you're right.


Thanks for taking the time to address all of those points. What you say really makes sense.

I've met a guy recently that I fell in love with, would it be sinful if we are in a relationship and live together but don't have sex?


Anderson is the biggest closet case I've ever seen.

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Please, stop projecting your filthy pervversions. This is why everyone hates sodomites: not only you have no principles, morals, and are promiscuous degenerates, but you think others are too. You are unable to imagine anyone opposing your degeneracy, as if your disgusting fantasies weren't worthy of anything beyond slight complaints.

And I forgot. Please, read this so that you understand what you have become: a disgusting degenerate, a failure that represents everything a man should not be.

Well what's your interpretation then heretic?

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I'm not a sodomite, I've never put my penis into another man's bum. Stop projecting your homo fantasies onto me.

lmao no

Do you really expect people with same-sex attractions to come to Christ if you tell them to kill themselves? You're the worst kind of Christian.


get out of my thread

Everyone is a sinner and I'm not different than any of you. Get off your high horse, we're on an 8ch board. Everyone here has grown up as a degenerate watching porn and fapping. You're as much of a degenerate as I am.

Matthew 7:5 - You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye.

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Right, you are not a sodomite, you only fantasize about sodomizing other men and being sodomized by other men.

You have some nerve, talking about "projecting homo fantasies", when you are the one who talks about his homo fantasies with other men you want to live with and say that anyone who rejects your degeneracy also participates in them.


Don't move the goalposts.

And I'm not getting out of your thread. Everyone is a sinner. Some sins lightly. Others talk about how much they want to live with the men they fall in love with. You are a huge degenerate, so stop thinking everyone is at your same level.

In this case, I can guarantee I have no log in my eye, since I don't fantasize about making out with other men and being sodomized by them. When you se me defending degeneracy, or openly asking if some perverse fantasy is ok, then you will have the right to quote your canned verses.

fantasies =/= reality

You don't even know me and you assume that I have sex with other men, when in the OP I specifically said that I'm celibate.


I meant living in a chaste relationship. Do you know how lonely it is to be a Christian with same-sex attractions? You'll never marry and every atheist/secular thinks you're an idiot for not having sex while (as seen here) most Christians assume things about you and try to disassociate themselves from you like you're some leper.


You're on your high horse again. I'm not a degenerate, I've never kissed or had sex with men. I bet you've fapped before.


You need to stop being such a dick. I really don't understand why you (and many other Christians) have so much hate for homos, they've literally have never done anything to you.

I'm like this because God created me this way.

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God doesn’t create mistakes

Thoughts are one thing, but when you start to ask if you can livve with men you "fall in love with". What do you think that means? What do you think makes you different from someone who has a friend? If you wanted to be celibate, you would just havve friends, but you describe people you "fall in love with" and how you want to liev with them. I think you know very well what "falling in love" means and why you are tempted to live with them.

A chaste relationship is called every-day friendship, which you are perverting. You can marry, you don't suffer form a medical condition.Thousands of people havve just healed their soul and overrcome their temptations and perversions. It is no surprise that people try to disassociate themselvves from you, when you start to pass temptations as a part of yourself, or describe how you want to live with men you fall in love with. That is not love, that is a perversion of love, a mockery, a parody.

Stop trying to make this about me. If you want to complain about something I have done, say so. I haven't claimed that you have kissed or had sex with men, only that because of your degeneracy, you embrace those things.

You need to stop being a degenerate. You, and people like you, have poisoned the world. You have turned children into monsters because you want to pretend God is at fault for your weakness and lust.

No, God has not created you this way. You have given in to degeneracy and then you blame God so that you don't havve to worry about overcoming lust. Talking about your "chaste life" with men you fall in love with is not overcoming lust.

OP, you know thats a bad idea and you know it. You know identifying as a sodomite is wrong but you still want to do it? Do you not see the problem? We aren't moving any goal posts for you.

I get it that you will be lonely, but you are the one choosing this when you know that it is wrong. Doing the right thing in this wrong world will lead you to loneliness. That's apart of being Christian.

REPENT


Same applies to men. God didn't make you this way, (((modernity))) did. You need more pic related and to forgo the internet.

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Man … not even Islam punishes thought crimes. Christianity is strange.

So, gay people didn't exist before the internet? Just how deep does the rabbit hole of delusion go on this board?

He shows acceptance and desire of them, o the point of "falling in love" with men. I will let yo guess what falling in love means there.


This is the biggest strawman I have ever seen, from one of the biggest retards I ahve ever seen.

You are twisting my words like you twist the word of God. Staying off the Internet will only help you in the long run. Its almost as if you don't want help.

Its almost as if your mind has become reporbate. Continue to live you satanic lie, see if I care. But when you are burning in hell, dont complain. Surely Your blood is upon you.

In the pic someone should shop in the KJB