Relationship general

I live in maybe the second most liberal city in England, behind Brighton. I'm in my mid twenties and literally every woman I know is only arsed about either her career, cosy nights in watching netflix with her boyfriend, or getting mashed and developing tinnitus. I love my friends, and I love women, but none of the women I know would ever consider changing their lifestyle to the extent necessary to be a follower of Christ.

I've met this girl. A nice, catholic, young woman. We've been out few times and probably will hang out some more.
But somehow I am troubled by my passion. I literally get boner when I think about her. Not even mentioning talking to her in front of church and seeing her in a dress (modest though).
I do not get any lustful fantasies but I am aroused by her. I was unable to handle my lust in previous relationships and frankly it is just recently - 10 months - that i quited fapping for good.
I really hope I will be able to handle this and not screw it up….

I married a good Christian woman and we have children.

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I have a girlfriend, though we live far away, I'm going to be moving next year. She's a Catholic, not the most devout one, but she's againts abortion, contraception, wants to have 3-4 kids and is willing to grow in her faith. I think I'm doing good

Where can I search my friend?
In my village its out of question, since either they are thots/single mom's, in college even worse, they winnie the pooh with the first they see, in my parish some good woman but I personally don't like woman with more that 80 years old.
Where can one find a good woman in Europe? I understand that even in the US its easier since there's a lot of conservative religious families (mostly protestants) but in southern Europe is impossible.
Which is sad because 50 years ago it was a very Catholic region.

Is this a particular reason this thread was made when there already is a relationship general up?

Not OP but I think this thread is more about getting a wife and related, while the other it seems more for people who are in a relation imo.
The title of the thread shouldn't be the same. This should be a normal thread imo.

Be careful with those kind of woman user. A friend of mine got one of those. They are so Catholic and devout that they even sleep together, and the girl now even gets mad when someone criticises her new friends when talking about morals and values and when I and others defend the moral of the Church against them. The sad thing is that she's bringing my friend alongside her.
She had lots of redflags from the beginning but he didn't want to listen.
So be careful, go slow and if she's really legit keep her and don't let her go user. You're the man of the house. If she tries to deviate from the path you have to get her right again, not following her.
Best of luck user.

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Im sorry user. I get shy around girls too. You just have to force yourself to talk to people. When you are with a girl try to talk to them like you would your best friend.

I wouldn't allow that
It's not with friends, but I've imposed a rule "no inappropriate sexual jokes" after I found out that they're sinful. She was first resentful, but then embraced that and now finds them disguisting
Fortunatelly, she's younger than me and she sees me as an authority figure, which makes it easier for me to change her views
Thank you very much, God bless

Well there was not a thread for days. After not seeing it for a long time I decided to create one but the same day hours earlier a thread was created.
But the other thread is spammed by shills, OP metadata is full of stuff that is not exactly useful. And most of all I dislike the "rules" posted in OP so if this thread stayed after I created it by mistake…it would be appreciated. I would prefer to post here.
Also the picture I posted has better aesthetics than christ-chan anime.

England. I am afraid I am not able to relate to that since I live elsewhere. It is conservative here but it's not like trad girls are around every corner so when I meet one and I like her I try my chances.
There are 0 communities of young people around the church nerby to where you live?
To be honest I met quite a few girls that would be wife material in church communities.

Congrats. I hope I will make it too one day.

I am not sure about Southern Europe. As for me I try to search the girls around the church/around the hobbies that I do. Do you seriously think it is easier in US than in southern Europe? I would think US/UK etc. is doing much worse than that.
No communities around your church/ no solid girls around your hobbies?
How about date apps? I do not mean Tinder, there was some website in previous threads to a dating site where christians hang out

Just set small goals. Literally just say "Hello" maybe with a firm smile, and move on with the day. If you feel ballsy enough, you can make a comment or whatever. If not, work up to saying more. So that opportunity has passed but it was useful. You identified something you want to work on. Very well. You got feedback here. Now take the first step with the next time you feel that way toward a woman in Mass or wherever. After you have successfully said Hello once or a few times, make small comments. Don't stress yourself out and think you have to have some big deep conversation out of nowhere, talking with strangers is pretty much only relegated to light-hearted topics. No pressure!

Also, I do not know where any of you live, but get involved over facebook Christian groups if your church or the young adult groups in your church support them. I see events all the time, especially coming up for Nov/Dec and there's dozens of women saying they're interested or going or whatever. Granted, most are…subpar…But I've seen some gems so I have something to look forward to.

We get lucky to have mass on Sundays. We have to beg for one that can come here. Lucky the SVD missionaries live close by and celebrate Mass for us.
But there's no groups besides the choir, and their full of old women and man.
I'm not a big fan of meeting people over the Web.
Call me a romantic but I don't think it's the proper way to meet someone, and besides I have my doubts about girls who join those websites.

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Well that sounds a bit abandoned by young people. We do have communities around churches. In large cities there are m any to choose from. I'd say the issue is to find the good match there.
Any hopes that moving to a bigger city would improve your chances? I mean I would like to give some advice but I cannot relate to your situation that much. my area is crowded with girls I regret just that I was so shy for years before now finally going for them..
I would use Web as the very last resort too. I detest even facebook messaging to girls I already know and I would never use it to ask her out. So yeah. I prefer to meet the girl personally,personally ask her out, see her smile and all that. So yeah I understand.

That's the problem. I live in a small village and from the few young girls there they are all whores that I wouldn't take even if I was paid.
I go everyday to a big city for college classes, but I don't have time to go to church there. Well I once when but I was the only person below 50yo there of a crowded church, it was in the middle of the week, so young people are probably in classes or working.
I mean it's not really a priority for me though. I'd like to marry and have kids, but I'm perfectly fine with a life of celibacy.

Im from the other thread
I dont like coffee anyway….

Frick I want to do exactly the same to a qt girl who infrequently visits my chapel.
I haven't seen her or her mother in a while (they got their own NO parish I presume) and now I'm getting slightly nervous.

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There are some churches here with you congregations but as far as I can tell they're literally from that liberal American style of Protestantism where the sermon is essentially a motivational speech, there's all sorts of lights and colours during worship music, which is near enough a pop concert, and everyone has a very liberal interpretation of the Bible. I'm not sure where to go to find serious Christians in this country but there certainly aren't many in my city

I prefer to ask them out personally because it is more resolute and you do not have to wait. I don't like the messaging game girls sometimes play when they wait for some time before they reply.
Give it some time, if she does not reply either ask her out irl or write something like "Hey I was interested in going out for a coffee, perhaps you did receive that message..do you want to hang out?"
If she sees that message and ignores it then you may assume she would not be worth your time anyway since most people are polite enough to give some sort of reply to that (either accepting or politely refusing, whatever)

If you know where she hangs out besides church just try your luck there. I have done that few times and it takes like few minutes.

I will pray for you user.

No catholic/orthodox churches in your area?
Wow now I get the feeling that I complain all the time meanwhile my area is mostly catholic and there actually is a good wife material around if you know where to go. I should be more grateful.

*perhaps you did not receive my message

That's a good sign: sexual attraction is important. It's crucial that you repress it though, so that you can engage in courtship sensibly and make an informed decision as to whether you are suited for marriage. Make sure you do not engage in any tactile behaviour (no kissing, touching, hand holding etc) or your passions may blind reason which does not allow informed decisions. 3 Months of courtship is all you need to decide if you should marry her

Is it so much to ask, I would like to have sex with farm animals?

I know the municipality she lives in, but that's it.
Also that'd be pretty creepy to do that in my country.

Congratulations user, you're a normal, unmarried man between the ages of 16-35.

Well I have never done it in a creepy way. I just knew where I saw her and supposed she would be there around the same time in future, made my plans according to it, then got the chance to ask her out. On the top of that those were the places that I frequent myself…so .
It would be creepy if I did not talk to her but instead hid myself. That would be creepy as hell. I talked about it with a friend (girl) and she said it was romantic that I waited for the girl not knowing if she shows up at all.
But yeah. It would probably be creepy to go around the house. Would not do that/recommend that.

3 months seems a bit short

So…reposting from previous thread:

I have already done that. She said we could grab a coffee, the date is yet to be set. In the meantime I got to know the first one. I do like her from what I can tell she's a high quality girl. To be honest I am like one date away from telling her. Perhaps I would have already done that by now if I was not curious about the other one.
Do you guys think it is a good idea? I feel close with this girl, it now feels only natural to tell her I like her. I do not know the other one at all, she is pretty and seemed nice so I was(and still I am) curious.
I mean if the first one is the girl for me, one coffee will not change the outlook and I will probably find out that the second one and I do not have much in common.
What is your take? Do you think I should try it and see or just drop it?

Post the whole story bro, I don't remember seeing your other post.

I think I'm going to post my "problem" let's call it that.
I'm an young adult and lately I've been feeling I'm missing something basically
Genesis 2:20
And Adam called all the beasts by their names, and all the fowls of the air, and all the cattle of the field: but for Adam there was not found a helper like himself.
I've posted above in this thread that I can find good woman whenever I go.
But I remenbered something. By best friend had a couple of dates (it was so he could know her better, so no kissing nor nothing related) with a girl he met before he fell inive with some bitch that's leading him gradually to a darker path. Nevertheless, he told me the girl was a Catholic who went to Mass on Sundays (sadly that's a great quality these days) and listens to the same type of music as I do etc.
He even once told me a couple of months ago if I wanted him to introduce me to her, to which I replied no because winnie the pooh girls I'm busy man.
But I've been thinking about that and why not?
There's one thing that scares me though.
Nothing happened between them but still should I be afraid of being cucked by her with my friend in a remote future, even though they were just normal friends?

Fixed.
This is my other post.

There was a girl I liked for a very long time. I was talking to her a few months ago. I always assumed that it never worked out because she deiced to move away to study. But she told me really it was because I was a christian and she could not go out with a guy who did not want sex before marriage. This struck me and actually made me happy that it did not work out in some way. But then I felt mixed.I believe that no sex before marriage is the right way to go but I vowed to my self I was never gonna make it a hill I would die on. I have seen sum people rip their selfs to shreds over it and I was not gonna do that. Yet here I was being put in the same group as those that do. Yet this really is angst that I am just not getting what I want. I pray to God each night 'Do not lead me into temptation', and he has not.

I feel lonely a lot but I really don't have time for a gf. Yet I feel like any other man. Its an internal chaos, but I keep it inside for the most part. I like dancing with women if I get the chance, nothing unsavoury of course.

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So it's a story with an happy ending? Any woman that actually wants to have sex before marriage is a whore user. If she was tempted by a boyfriend well it wouldn't be that bad (still a mortal sin), but she being the active party looking for sex it's a terrible sign.
Thank God you left her user. God over pleasure every damn time.
But you should. Die for it and you know why? Because God himself said it was a mortal sin and who are we to tell God he wasn't right?
Sex might be great, but having sex with someone who is not my wife, no matter how good it is, it's enough to make me want to offend God (and end up in hell since that scares me as well ofc).

Fixed

I suppose it was a very happy ending. But it was strange, it was presence over my life for so long. I had such nice days with her. It felt like a change of tune yet with no replacement. I guess she was the first girl I really liked and so the impression will always last.

haha yes ofc.

The thing is I have no example in my life to run by on this (apart from Jesus and some historical heroes). Even the religious people I know have fallen at this hurdle. I would be very happy if I did do it right, but I totally lack confidence. And my country and region is very very secular so theres a lot of forces against me here. Yet as you note, it is commanded, so it shall be striven for.

Quick rundown:
So that's the story. From that time we've been out few times and I did manage to ask the other out girl for a coffee. She agreed but the date is not set yet. Now I really feel like going for the first one. But at the same time I would like to get to know the other, just in case.
What do you think?

If I should post from my experience: I introduced my best friend to a girl I know. I was considering dating her a long time ago but it was only temporary. I know she's a good girl but there is no way we could be a couple. I like her as a friend and that's all. I introduced them after I sorted that out.
So my point is that he would not offer this if he was into her or if he was seriously considering to date her. After all if he's a good friend he would not go for it if he changed his mind once you would be dating.
Try i

try it, at the very least you'll get an experience. That's the way I try to look at it if the date does not go well.

Good riddance user.
There are girls that would not sleep with you before marriage no matter what.
Then there are girls that could be broken by boyfriend tempting them for a long time.
Then there are girls that want it but will adjust themselves to men
Then there are girls that will want it and will seduce you on purpose in hopes to break you
And finally then there are girls that won't date you because they want it all now.
What category does this fall into?
I think it went well for you.

OK user I'll give a shot.

Well it looks like you need to know better both of them imo. So go on this date with the other one. But make up your mind quickly because if things get serious one of the girls would not like if you went out with others.
In the end your feelings are the one who will choose.

I can't shake this dark cloud of suspicion and envy. I don't ever want my trust betrayed. It's like I just want to say screw it and just claim her and be done with it. It's like, what if I do marry her and she cheats and revels in destroying my trust and I have to tolerate that shit? Forgive it so she can do it again? I don't know anymore.

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Dude she is cheating you 100% lmao
Its so easy to see.
Just break up with that bitch. She ain't worth one more second of you.

Started nofap over 2 years ago and thankfully haven't yet relapsed (Thanks be to God). But ever since I started it, I felt that I was greatly more attracted to real women and so I forced myself to grow out of my autist shell.
Now I asked out 4 women in 1 year (as opposed to never) and I've now also been rejected 4 times. It hurts bros but I'm working everyday to be a better man who'll hopefully become a great husband.

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There is a Catholic cathedral and an Eastern Orthodox church within walking distance of me but I don't belong to either denomination, or know anything about what they believe really, so wouldn't feel right attending.

Amen brother. And thats too true about being attracted to real women.

You're doing good brother. 4 times asking out is a good effort. The fact that rejection did not break your will as far as self improvement and no fap are concerned shows you have strong will. I have 11 months on my hands now and I have to say I noticed the same trend…it forced me to go out and do stuff.Keep up the good fight, the right girl will eventually appear in your life and you'll be well prepared.

You should not waste your time with a girl that cheats on you.

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I went for the first one. Already told her what I feel, she said she reciprocates my feelings which is great.
So we'll see how it goes on from here/ She's a peculiar girl and a bit shy.

Well done user. Hope everything turns out well.

I told her I like her right after I kissed her, which was a surprise for her. She said she's never had a boyfriend neither has she been hugged. So that was a bit too hurried..but I did just how I felt I should do it.
All went well eventually but we'll see where it will head. She seems to be much less communicative than my previous girlfriends so far and to be honest I miss the contact through messaging at least.
So it kind of feels like being on the edge. I am happy, yet I seem to miss something essential so far.

You need a spiritual father to talk to, like a confessor you go to or priest

Man, God prevent me from feeling deep envy for you. Good catch and good on you for taking initiative! We got a regular chad on our hands here.
Case in point.

Can't have nice things in this rotten world.

This. That user hitted a gold vein.

Thanks a lot. I am far from being a chad though. My previous relationships(two) were a disaster, the last I destroyed because I was feeling insecure all the time, was empty spiritually and the girl was wife material for sure. I lost it all by being stupid. All I did last year and half was no fap, working out, praying and larping as confident, then finally I received some confidence in myself, thank God. If you told me a year ago I would do something like this I would just laugh and wish, seriously. Perhaps fake it till you make it works after all.

So what do if I live in California?

The most atheistic location in the country.
The most promiscuous state in the country.
The most expensive state of the country.

Should I move or should I keep looking here?
Should I run away or should I fight to my last breath and go down with the ship?

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Kek'd hard when I heard it, father could barely contain his laughter when he was talking about it.

DIfficult question. How does your parish look like? Any girls there?
Even in the most deserted places you may find a trad girl, then you will be worth as pearls for one another.
I would probably stay if I had commitments there (woman, family) but i would consider moving if I was yet to make commitment.

The sad truth is that men are feminized and cowardly to ask girls out nowadays. Therefore anyone doing slightly masculine seems to be chad.
All we can do is to self improve and enjoy the ride.

You'll find the right one someday user. You seem like you're on a great path.

Too bad there aren't any good books on "gaming" from Christian perspective(Am I mistaken?) What I mean here: Book that gives you an outline how to communiicate with women to be successful. Sure there are game books but all of them are "go sleep with whores".
I remember going through one book "day bang" with my teeth clenched. It was good in a sense that I knew what to improve and I knew what my goal is. It helped me get forwardd. However if I wasn't grounded strongly, it would twist my morals because it is a poison for soul.
mention thi because if you know of a good source, we might include it into OP in future. I might look to my notes from the gaming book and write basics here without the bad stuff.
It would take time but it could be worth it.
Anyone got anything?

A lot of us have ended up being alienated for even expressing an interest in dating. Women talk, and rumor weeds spread. We’re not feminized, we’re tired of Christian women who are actually just careerists stabbing us in the back.

I did not mean to shame anyone I just think we are the ones who are the solution. Men lead, women tend to follow.
Yeah I know the times are bad. I live in the same modern hellhole as everyone else and I have problems similar to others, as everyone.. My point was that women tend to care more about what others think of them. Men are supposed to lead and they mainly care about what other men think of them, specifically their friends. That is why women spread rumors/they tend to like guys that are desired by other women just because they are desired by them. While men care more about opinion of their friends, then they care for women having respect for them.
Men run on ego. Men caring too much about what women think about them is feminine. Sure want them to think highly of you… but when they do not you do not adjust yourself just to fit into their frame of view. You are the one that sets the overton window.
When a woman rejects you, find another one. We should not put women on pedestal because it spoils them. There are few women who would deserve it though: good caring mothers, women devoted to their families. THe rest (careerists stabbing us in the back) do not deserve any pedestal, they barely deserve respect at all because they disrespect their own nature.

Easier said then done when you don't live in one of the most pozzed states in America.

You don't have to constantly pursue women to be a man. If you're not in a position to have a relationship then you shouldn't

Did the MRAs and PUAs tell you this?

This has always been the case with us men.
The woman we love is way above us. Almost a divine being. The man that really loves a woman always says he is not worthy of her.
That's why when someone proposes he kneels down because she's superior to him.
And there's nothing wrong with it. It's just good old plain romance.
Of course people are a bit cowardly to ask a girl out. This isn't being feminine. And besides you should only ask out someone you really like so she won't care that you are looking stupid.

But in this gay earth today we have to opposites. The beta orbiters who take that concept to the absurdum mainly because they are anti social and have no testosterone, and the pretense Chads that pretend they are cool and shit and don't care about feelings and stuff and switch girls night after night.

Leave that God-forsaken place for your own welfare.

There are girls around but whenever I get to know one of them it just happens we're not compatible /she does not care about a relationship with me.
It's very demoralizing. Especially when doing so much to increase my potential and it just lacks practical results besides not being nervous about asking a girl out.

Don't want to make blogposts but I feel like sharing this experience.
I went all in too early here because I felt like it.(see my previous posts) I fell in love with her and I just had the guts to do it so I told myself why not try it…. I kissed her, we also hugged. She went with it for a few days but she was less communicative day by day because she did not feel good about it. Tbh neither did I….of course I liked kissing her and I was not afraid to do it but it was too early on (few weeks of going out) so she was not prepared for it - never had boyfriend, never hugged with man. It felt weird.
I got the feeling she was leading me on and got irritated about it because men just cannot get over their ego being pushed down since we run on ego. Now that we talked it over and made it clear that we both want to see each other, want to go out but it is too early for kissing and for saying I am her boyfriend. That we stay with hugging at most, maybe with time we will hold hands. She said she enjoyed it but that she would feel like a hoe if she went with it. To be clear I looked as a completely superficial moron, a "chad" that hits on every hot girl while nothing could be further from truth.
I feel like a great stone fell off my heart now. First I am not a chad it may seem to people….I did go all in but then did not know what to do next anyway. Maybe if the girl was a thot she would seduce me into something I would not want to do, who knows.
This girl on the contrary has the spine to stand up to say what she dislikes, she can say it sharply as a sword but also with love in her eyes and honesty. Tbh I have never met a girl like that. I did not know what to think but now that we made the situation clear I do know you do not meet a girl such as this every day.
christian, principled, honest, also nationalist. I cannot even believe girls like this still exist and furthermore that she's still interested in dating me after I acted so silly so early. Also I am glad that I am not expected to be some "chad" doing the moves early and that all that suffices is me being myself going slowly at things.
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Excuse longposting but this really got me, blew my mind away so I thought I would share it with you guys here.

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She's a winnie the pooh diamond user.
The most important thing is for you to be always honest with her.

I keked ironically because a friend of mine and his girlfriend a few weeks of going out started doing very uncatholic things.
Sad winnie the pooh world we live in. Thankfully he broke up with the whore and he's about to be baptised.

Tldr: I wish I would found out someone like your girl. Good luck user.

Thanks user.

The book No More Mister Nice Guy could give you pointers. While it isn't necessarily from the Christian perspective, having the confidence and firmness to believe what you believe and being unafraid of what might happen because of it (within reason of course, nobody likes a polemic) are keys to being a better man.

In Spring of last year I had some new coworkers at my student job. One of them was a christian girl who had a good sense of humor and was pretty intolerant of untoward behavior.

At first she thought I was flirty since social interactions come naturally to me and I like having a good rapport with everyone.

We both got off work at the same time and she walked me to her car as her sister was supposed to pick her up.

As luck would have it, it started to rain, so we sought shelter inside my car. Of course after a bit of pleasant conversation we both went silent. So I kissed her.

We've been dating since March. She is very strong in her faith and ideologies and a lil bit older than me. Hope to marry her.

My local church and library the only girls there are taken or underage. I seem to have crummy luck everywhere else. Do you guys have any suggestions as to where to go and what are the ideal hours?

Also curious about the answer. I don't think it's right to join groups or visit places just to date women but the places I'm at have no one I can date. I hope I won't have to online dating.

Congrats user. Sounds like you're doing great. Glad to hear it

I have met most girls around the church - not always on mass. More often in the communities, in case of an event (ball, concert, etc) or in youth groups around the church.
Outside the church I meet girls in the hobbies I do - music, sport. I do not go to places for a specific time to meet them. I just do those things and girls appear in them.
Having a broad circle of friends helps a lot. Not every girl is suitable for you to ask her out. But she may be a good christian girl, fun to be around. And guess what….she may have a sister/a friend. That way when you meet them somewhere together, she will probably introduce you, you don't have to worry too much about approach an things.
There were girls around but only when I started socializing - that is, talking to other girls just as a regular guy, a friend, I noticed that there are more of them available. Of course you have to do with what you got in your area. The "no" places are obvious: pubs, gyms, parties. I am not saying you cannot meet a good girl there but it is much less likely than meeting her in church - we can agree on that. So rather than going somewhere for an ideal time, do your thing around those places as you need to, do not expect miracles when you hang out with friends at bar.

tl dr: I recommend events around the church, sports, dancing classes,music classes…..whatever you're into. hanging out with people you already know is important - it may lead you to unexpected things.

Hi, I am user who spent his life so far in studying and prayer. Now I am ready to find woman and create family, but I have about 0 experience with women.
What should I be aware of when choosing female to create family with?
I am mostly worried that I will choose seemingly good girl and get in that "hey user, we are together a for a year, it is about the time to have sex already" type of situation later.

First there is no perfect woman. You will always have to find a compromise - as well as your wife in you. What you probably want is a good christian girl. You should be aware that there are clear red flags: Piercings, tattoos, dyed hair, talking about sex, heavy drinking etc. are obvious ones. There are also tradthots - girls that may seem good at first but they will come out later.
I would not worry too much about "hey user, we are together a for a year, it is about the time to have sex already" type of situation. If she was pushy in sex things I think you would know that sooner by other sings. If she came with this suggestion without any previous signs of being pushy I think you could handle the situation by setting a clear red line that won't be crossed before marriage to set her straight.

But I think you can always talk about it with her after few months of going out - set the limits of physical contact. If she's a good girl she will not be upset but on the contrary it will improve your relationship.

Thank you for answering my questions, user.

Do you have any advice about tradthots?
I tried searching about them online but all results I got are about some alt-right groups infighting.

Yeah sorry, it's altfag buzzword for female speakers online that rant about "muh tradition" and politics while wasting their best years they could have children. That's not what I meant by the term. I see many girls in church acting like they're good catholic girls but then you see them go out, drink heavily and hit on guys. They're very superficial in their faith, some of them even think sleeping around is no big deal. That's what I mean by "tradthot". That's not exactly the altright meaning of the word. I just took the word I know and suited it for this purpose.

Sometimes they're spotted easily, sometimes they're difficult to spot unless you see them acting like hoes.
Red flags to look for: not wearing decent clothes, not even to church, having an IG account (is not a huge red flag by itself, but if she has tons of selfies there it is a red flag especially if they're suggestive)/FB sexy selfies collection.
I think they're not that frequent though and when you see them you will recognize it. Basically jsut do not take that "she goes to church" implies she's into faith. Look for other signs and her character without getting infatuated by her looks and the fact you have met her in church because she may be a beautiful apple but rotten inside.

Thank you for clarifying.

Might be going on a date soon for the first time in a really long time. Cute Christian girl at my college, we've been talking a bit and I've heard from mutual friends that she's into me. But Thanksgiving break is tomorrow, and we couldn't find a time today that'd be good to go out, so we'll wait until sometime next week.

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But she's not my gf yet, this would be our first date and we're both going home for Thanksgiving break (we both live on campus now).

I am user.
I have the issue with communication. I am fine with the slow-motion of things we agreed upon. Tbh I like the girl even more after it. What seems weird to me is that she never writes first. I think I could go for days and she would not even message "hey are you still alive there?". When we're together she seems to be into me. When I write/call her she is there and she shows interest. So I think it's not the "attention seeker" case. Otherwise she would not agree upon those dates - most of them were walks/having a tea in my appartment. Nothing that would attract a woman that would take pleasure in being paid for etc.. She did invite me once though so that's it but well it was when I was inviting her over and she said that she would like me to come over because I was always the one inviting her..
I think I do need more affirmation than I am getting right now because frankly it makes me miserable, considering how much energy, affection and getting over my own ego I have put into this. But I realize the girl has never had a boyfriend and she may be just slower at things. I want to go easy on her but I do not think I can sustain this very long if I do not talk to her about my needs.
What do?

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If I was to move on I could go for asking other girls out. But I do not want to move on because I care for this girl very much.

A trad thot is basically a girl that pretends she's a traditional woman so that she can get the dudes from a specific group. A friend of mine dates one so I know what I'm talking about.

…maybe I should of gone Roman Catholic? Anyone who is Orthodox and lives in the United States have dating success stories?

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Nah, you should've bypassed the LARP entirely and gone full bible Christianity

Are there any parishes near you that are affiliated with FOCUS (focusnorthamerica.org/) or some other Orthodox outreach group? FOCUS does some great work around here feeding and helping the homeless. I've gone to help out a few times and there's a little group of qts there helping serve the food. I don't know if the same can be said for your local outreach, but doing something like this may be a good way to meet women while doing Christlike deeds at the same time.

And no, you shouldn't have gone Roman. You've found the True Faith. Remain steadfast in it; pray every day and strive to become a better man. Eventually God will bring you and a woman together as man and wife, if that is His will.

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Listen, I'll be frank: I am Catholic, I wish you begum of course…but, if you think to become Catholic just because it is the "easy option" and not what you truly believe, then I'd rather you stay away. I live in a Country where Catholics are a minority, but I believe the RCC to be the true bride of God. If you do not see the RCC to be that, then why even join us? Find an Orthodox parish and go there…even if it means two hours drive to get there or worse.