but I can't get myself across in this noisy fucking orgy of idiocy and superficiality and overpriced drinks and hysterical girls downing shots of vodka. Well my friend, there's the issue. Work your medium.
The club is a HIGH ENERGY setting and you're the fucking happening. You are what's happening. If you're a low energy person, this might not be the place for you! But if you can get yourself vibed up and amped up you can have a great time! Walk in, smile and just.... talk to people. Don't try to discuss politics or chechnya... just high five some people, say " heeeey what's up!", walk around, drink, smile, say hello, compliment someone, spread a good vibe and a good energy, and move on. If a conversation happens to just start, then keep it going by all means, but don't feel obligated to do so.
Whenever you introduce yourself to someone, or a group of people, you must always have a higher energy than they do. Bring that vibe UP with your arrival, or nobody will be interested in you.
You'll quickly realize that 10% of people at the club actually are having fun.... and 90% wish they were with the ones who "matter" so they could be having fun too. You can be the guy who matters, you can be the happening, you can be the party. Or you can be that death row of guys standing around holding their drinks leaning on the wall or in a circle with their guy friends, checking chicks out and looking like vultures , bored and boring....
So be the fucking party. Mingle, smile, dance, talk to EVERYONE just a little bit. Be POSITIVE, and KIND, and WITH A GOOD ENERGY, and keep moving. Invite a stranger for a shot. If you see birthday party, pop by, give congratulations to the person, share a shot, tell everyone " this is the coolest guy/girl ever!" etc. If you see a guy with a trendy look or a woman who obviously put a lot of effort into her look, compliment them sincerely and then walk away.