>few days ago, text girl from my middle school
>chat a bit, say we should hang out
>she accepts
>we go for a walk for a bit
>I make her laugh a fair amount
>She's kinda chubby not really obese jsut not attractive to me
>for some reason she looked much better in he photos
>I don't have high standards
>leave to go home
>hug her goodbye she says we should go again
>she texts me saying she had fun when I get home
>I say yeah and she sends me a smiley face
>that was 2 days ago and I have replied
She's nice, she's not a huge whore or rude or anything. I jsut feel no attraction to her. I'm a 25 year old virgin faggot. I feel bad for abandoning her maybe because it feels like it's be "cute" if I ended up with her or some gay shit. Either way I'm a shallow fuckin faggot and deserve to die alone. And I'm losing interest in women in general. I just feel so dead inside.
I hate how shallow I am
Welcome to being normal human
Anons dubs are the reason op is the way he is
you should let her know you aren't that interested and it's just because of her appearance. at least she gets some closure then (also although it sounds harsh at least she won't be left wondering if it was her personality or something she said or did)
Everyone is shallow until they're not. Sounds, well, shallow, but the point is that you need to experience life yourself before any advice we give you is going to stick.
I've passed out on chances like the dumb fuck I was for decades, before I realized that I never should've waited for the fucking 10/10. A nerdy, extremely beautiful hairy girl. A few chubby girls. One with a mild disability due to which she couldn't really run, but was otherwise completely functional and hot as fuck. One who was into politics at a time I wasn't. You wouldn't believe the stupid fucking decisions I made.
Now? Now I understand that if I hadn't been such a dumb fuck, then I might be happy instead of having resolved to life the rest of my life miserable and alone. But it's too late to do anything about it. Thing is, you can't really force yourself to like someone. If you don't feel attracted to her body, then you don't. Even if you know logically that it shouldn't be that way, you can't really change how you feel. Until life kicks you in the face enough that your feelings learn the same shit your common sense knew a long time ago. Let's just hope it isn't too late.
yep she is single and accept a loser like you
Fuck this fucking autists advice. Really, fuck that shit. I know there're a lot of woman haters on this board and I know plenty of women deserve it. But openly criticizing someone's appearance who was sweet enough to like you, is about the worst fucking thing you can do and you'd be a major asshole if you did it OP. She doesn't deserve that. We all know how we would feel like if someone we liked told us off because of our height, weight, dick size, hairline, or whatever. That hurts, it REALLY hurts, and it'll keep hurting for years after you said it, possibly for longer.
Honesty isn't always a virtue. If you really aren't feeling it with her, then be nice about it. Just tell her that she was really nice, and you had fun, but you're not feeling that special connection, or you're getting second thoughts for whatever reason. Say it in a manner that doesn't leave it open, that you are NOT interested in trying anything more right now. But that you hope she finds someone great because she seems the kinda type that would deserve it.
If you liked her otherwise, you can add something like that if things don't work out for her or for you, then if it's ok if you contact her again later when you get your life sorted out or whatever white lie like that. Point is, close the accounts so she won't be left hanging or assuming, but you don't have to burn her, or the bridges you made with her.
dense motherfuckers virgins
normies first opinion is about appearance
if they don't click, they both know that was because of looks
I don't know if she likes me or not. I don't even know if she thought it was a date or not. I was pretty cringy but she did seem to want to hang out again. I'm a 4/10 and want to fuck 7/10. There is no hope for me. I cannot lower my standards that much.
What?
Yeah that is probably true. At this point a skinnyfat loser cuck is such an internalized part of me I don't even mind being virgin and was even scared to fuck a. Fat girl who explicitly was willing to suck my dick and fuck me .
You're literally creating your own misery. If you're going to hold yourself back from opportunities then don't bitch about it, because it's a choice that you're making.
I just feel bad that I am not attracted to her and would be forcing myself to go on another date with her. I honestly just wish I would die in my sleep without even deciding to.
You like what you like, why the fuck should you 'settle' -- do you owe her an entire future because she went on what could barely described as a date with you?
Same goes for females, you don't fucking owe anybody
>I don't know if she likes me or not.
She treated you right, per your own words despite you being cringy. And then she wants to do it again.
It doesn't matter if she was the ugliest girl on the planet, women who treat you like that are rare. At least in my experience. And if the angry nerds here are anything to go by, I'm not the only one who's had that experience. She deserves you treating her right because of it. So like I said, if you don't feel it and aren't attracted to her, that's ok. There's nothing wrong with that. But don't be an ass and hurt her because of it. Just be a gentleman and end it with some class, I promise you you'll feel better off for it as well.
You don't have to go on another date to waste both of your times. You're not far enough ahead in your "relationship" that you couldn't do it by text / facebook or whatever for example. Just make sure that you don't insult her as you do, and that you wish her the very best.
Because what you're motivated by right now is just lust, having never really fulliled either you're struggling to distinguish that lust from your desire for love and companionship. You never experienced the developmental milestones most others did, never sowed those wild oats. As a result your needs for a relationships are suitably immature and underdeveloped. Go fuck some whores and get it out of your system, get your heart torn out by a girl way out of you're league, find someone who's a great fit and fuck it all up, break a heart pr two yourself. Not because any of these things are good or desirable, they hurt like shit and are terribly destructive to everyone involved. You do it because it teaches your what is truly valuable in a realtionship and how to sustain one.
If he doesnt tell her she will be worrying what she did or said wrong. Its better to just tell someone they arent your type physically or whatever.
Post a pic that was close to her body type.
I don't want to lie to her or abandon her. I really looked forward to meeting her again but her looks weren't good enough for me even though were the same tier. I won't hurt her I don't even think she wants me that much if even at all. I jsut hate myself for not being attracted to her.
I did ruin things with a girl I really liked in other cases. I'm too ugly to fuck whores. I got a job so I could get a gf but now I'm relaizing it was a lot of cope and self delusion. Which I knew all along.
Like this but less attractive I feel like. I feel really cruel saying that.
why is openly criticizing her appearance any worse than breaking up with her on hte basis of her appearance and leaving her confused? speaking as someone who's been ghosted (likely due to my appearance), it makes you insecure about everything instead of just insecure about the one thing that they broke up with you over
This is how men and nerds think. It's NOT how women, or normal people function. There's a whole other language people use for dating that yes, it's dishonest and leaves things open and sometimes leave you wondering what the fuck you did wrong. Every single time a woman says "it's just not working out" or "there's no chemistry" or whatever it's just an excuse to hide the real reason. But that's not a disservice. Does it hurt to be told lies? Sure. But it hurts a helluva lot less than being told you're ugly, or fat. You may not think so, but practically everyone else does.
Jesus even if you people don't go outside and haven't dated people, you'd think the memes and TV would be enough. You don't EVER tell a woman she's fat or ugly. Not ever. That *will* hurt her harder than any pretty excuses, believe me.
That is dummy thicc, definitely a pretty big girl but if her fat is in the right places it can be good. You are either into that body type or you arent I guess. You might not be able to handle it.
I would rather a guy told me I was too fat and at least then I could diet or work on my appearance more. Fat can be lost. Its crueler to just ghost people imo.
Dude you are never going to fuck a 7/10 unless you're rich and charismatic, as a 4/10. I've always been a 7/10 and I used to pull 6-8s all the time. Womens' standards have shot through the roof in the past 10 years. My value has objectively gone up in the past 10 years because of income and time spent in the gym, but now it's hard to even get attention from 7s who are objectively on my level.
Just ghosting is cruel as fuck, but no-one here suggested that. People suggested being let down easy. "Fat can be lost" is precisely the kind of autistic thinking prevalent in a board like this. In reality whether it's your weight, or height or whatever else, it all hurts just as bad.
It's not but idk she's a nice person.
True. I really want to go back to NEETing honestly. If the girl lost weight she might be attractive to me but idk. I wish I could change how I think and feel but I can't.
Well anons it's been 48 hours since our date...how long do I have to decide if I want to see her again and text her before it's too late and she figures it's over? Or should I wait for her to text me again?
Be a man and date her again op.
If you think she's fine except for being a fat disgusting hambeast, work on having her lose weight.
Only if that doesn't work out then dump her.
Are you stupid? Nothing can be done about height. Fat CAN be lost, easily, simply by eating less. These are very straightforward facts. Insulting someone about something they cannot change is way different to insulting someone over something they cannot.
>Are you stupid? Nothing can be done about height. Fat CAN be lost, easily, simply by eating less. These are very straightforward facts. Insulting someone about something they cannot change is way different to insulting someone over something they cannot.
If you use this same reasoning to tell the "autistic" robots on this board to stop being fucking retarded and go outside and talk to people and learn game, then you are based. Otherwise, you are a disgusting hypocrite.
Can change* originally
>>that was 2 days ago and I have replied
You missed the window. Could have at least got a practice gf you shallow fag. Die alone.