Why do I always get attached to people so easily? It always blows up in my face

Why do I always get attached to people so easily? It always blows up in my face...

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You're allowing your loneliness to cloud your better judgement.

I have the same problem.
It's a hell most people who are smart will never understand.

this. i used to fall in love with girls i met if they texted me first and think i was straight up best friends if some people asked me to come through to a party. getting attached quickly isnt a bad thing but you need to learn from past mistakes and realize how to really interact and see which people you want to go the distance with

i think i'm the same but i don't really interact with others so haven't proven it right yet. it's scary though. i could get taken advantage of really easily i think

What's the solution tho? I hate being like this

To come to terms with being lonely. It's not fun, but accepting it when you are. You know it feels worse when you're lonely and heartbroken when they inevitable fail you. People will actively look for others like you because they know you're easier to exploit.
You can still take chances, just be more aware and don't expect someone to be around forever.

>tfw get attached super easily
>people always ghost me and make me sad
>tfw someone else starts getting overly attached to me
>feel claustrophobic and dont know what to do, ghost them

I am a horrible person.

I'm kind of getting mixed messages here user are you telling me to stay lonely or to keep taking chances
You are.

You need to come to term with that fact that being alone is okay and normal, and that just because someone shows interest in you, whether romantic or as a friend, doesn't mean you're special to them or that you matter all that much to them at all.
A normal life consists of tamed relationships.

But it's not okay nor normal. Less than 1% of people are friendless.
>doesn't mean you're special to them or that you matter all that much to them at all
What's even the point of having "relationships" then?

You have to first accept being lonely. If you can't accept that right now and really come to terms with being lonely. Then taking chances isn't the best choice at the moment. If you can reach a spot for yourself where being alone and being lonely is ok, it's never great, but if you can live with it, then you won't be as vulnerable because you won't be so desperate to not feel lonely. I think at that point you'll be more receptive to genuine attention that comes to you, instead of any attention to fill the void.

I don't think I will ever reach that spot. I would have to be incredibly delusional to think something like that.

Is this, just a friend problem or a romantic problem?

Both but I have given up on romance pretty much

Being alone and feeling lonely is hard, it's extremely difficult but I think that's why finding a way to come to terms with it is important. You have to realize not everyone is going to be like you, you may not ghost people and disappear and string them along, but other people will do that. You may not abandon people or give up on people but other people do. You're probably a decent person and so you look at people through that lens and assume they are also, which makes it more confusing and painful when they do those things because it's hard for someone who doesn't do that shit to understand why or how someone else can.That's not a reflection of what you are as a person though, it's them.

But even that is better than being alone. I think.

Well accepting loneliness doesn't mean you have to be alone forever. It just means you can come to terms with feeling alone. That helps to protect you from being injured so badly by people because you won't be as desperate for just any attention at all.
I don't know how you get there, that's different for every single person.

I don't really get it, isn't that kind of accepting that's how it will be for a very long time?

Keanu Reeves talks about learning to enjoy spending time with yourself. Though he can have all the partying and people time he wants, probably not the same for people around here.

>Why do I always get attached to people so easily? It always blows up in my face...
you have autism

Get attatched to me user. I won't ghost you and I love talking to people whenever I'm not working.

Thanks for the offer user but I've had no luck with people like that. The friendship ends up being extremely onesided.

it may not give you much to hear this but I I've been through the same process and I still am on a day to day basis and just the fact that you acknowledge loneliness is a step towards the way. You see user it's a self repeating process, the more you crave social bonds the more desperate the relief crawling will become which just end up in constant anxiety all the time similar to GAD. Loneliness often also tricks into getting more self conscious or judgmental cause your own process of reading others emotions can get somewhat unfocused. Getting to enjoy your own space and just being in your body takes time. After all this is a process and this exists for a reason and that's okay,

I feel you bro. I think it's a problem with robots in general since we don't get alot of attention in general. So when we do get attention, we are fiercely loyal and overcommited. Literally found myself falling for a femanon hard only to figuratively get slapped in the face. I should have known better

Such a thing is impossible to enjoy
That's probably why. I wish I knew a way to fix it that's actually realistic.

does it feel like that to you?

No, it IS that way user.

So it goes friend, it was only an offer. Hope you can find a nice friend.

care to elaborate why?

Thanks user. Best of luck to you too.
Because I can't delude my self to cherish trash like it was treasure.

what is it that makes it trash to you?

Many negative qualities too tedious to list.