This could be a problem: update

Hi, I posted a thread before about this problem and got some advice from a few helpful anons. First, thank you. Second? There's been some developments. The previous thread is here: Now, the developments (and me preface by saying I'm ashamed):
>as I said before, I kept getting unwanted texts from coworker who got me drunk
>they start being increasingly aggressive
>"are you ignoring me, user? Should I stop by? Maybe your at (gf's name)'s".
>respond, try to keep it friendly without pissing her off
>like I said the shutdown has been great since I didn't have to see her (or the coworkers she may have told about. Not to mention how everybody was since gf told them about my stripping days)
>"user, I worry. I know you don't want to cheat, that's fine. I care about you and want to make sure we're still friends. I don't want to involve (gf's name). Come over tonight so we can talk about things"
>I stupidly go over
>we talk
>of course she has beer and liquor
>keeps feeding me drinks, making jokes about "liquor"
>talks about what she got me to do last time, apologizes for "taking liberties"
>says she wouldn't mind a "repeat performance" or more

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>tell her I'm not going to cheat and that I didn't appreciate her shoving her finger up my ass or the other things she did when she talked me into putting on what was supposed to be just a show when she was designated driver and I was shitfaced
>"user. You know I want you to fuck me but I won't push it. You don't even have to strip naked but since I've been quiet I think you should try something on for me"
>pretty buzzed, not wanting her to blab about last time, I agree but say this is the last time and no funny business
>turns out she ordered me a "men's thong"
>tells me to go put it on
>I down a few more shots, go to the bathroom to change
>come back out and her pants are off, she's sitting back on the couch with her legs spread
>"user, I know you don't want to cheat but I need something. Crawl your sexy ass over here and earn my not saying anything"
>The night went downhill from there, I crawled over and went down on my fat coworker and made her cum over and over
>night didn't end there

I feel like I really fucked up. I don't and didn't know what else to do. I feel stuck servicing this fat pig to keep her quiet

I really appreciate any input and advice here, and if you don't feel like reading the first thread I'm willing to answer any questions here. Last thread some really kind and understanding anons gave me some helpful comments and I can't say how much I appreciate the help

If I don't respond right away, leave comments/questions/advice anyway, I'll check back if I have to go

okay so. serious question. Why did you even drink one bit of alcohol that second time?

Because of two reasons
1. I was SUPER nervous and wanted to take the edge off. I didn't bring any alcohol intentionally but when I got there and she offered me a drink, I accepted. 1 drink became two, became four, became 17, etc.
2. I am a fucking idiot.

yea so you are basically just a repeat cheater at this point. Break up with your gf or at least tell her everything. I honestly can't stand people like you. Especially after you did it a second time.
first time, okay you drunk. But second time you purposely got drunk with her and her alone knowing full well what kind of person she is and what she wants. I hope you suffer from this decision and that you change

I want to change. I'm fucking terrified to tell my gf, because I might lose her. If she wouldn't have told my coworkers about my past I feel like some of this might not have happened. I don't want to do anything else for fatty, but I don't want her to get pissed off and tell my gf. I feel stuck, and disgusted.

And I didn't mean to get drunk the 2nd time. It was stupid. I thought I'd just have a couple of drinks, and before I knew it I was fairly drunk. It's like she knew it would happen

okay so. I have given you my opinion, now here is my advice:
tell her honestly everything that happened.
>if she didnt tell them this wouldn't have happened
do not say this to your gf. You are blaming her and that is such an insult. DO NOT SAY THIS
own up to your mistake and tell her.

keeping this a secret has zero benefits. You will suffer under the guilt. Fatty will abuse you again. Your relationship will suffer under the stress you are under

You don't want to change. Look at your fucking actions not what you say retard.

You did. SOmeone who doesn't want to do something wouldn't do it. You wanted to deep down. Your actions express this. That is why cheaters will always be cheaters. You'' use any retarded excuse to justify your actions. That is all your character dude. So you really have two options stop being a fucking cheater and tell your gf (soon to be ex regardless) or don't and still suffer the consequences. Eitherway there is no good outcome for you. SO either be a fucking man or a god damn coward. Everyone fucking bitches and complains about how shitty robots are but these are the fucking people chicks date. Fucking cheating lying ass pieces of shit who can't even do a modicum of self reflection and just looking for an easy out.

I'm leaning this way. What if she leaves? And what about fatty? If I lose my gf fatty will probably openly brag to our coworkers about what she's been doing and I might have more of those idiots harassing me. It's bad enough they know I used to strip, I'll be a laughing stock.

I get what you're saying. And I feel like a piece of shit. Neither outcome is good. I really don't want to lose her. But I guess I should tell her.

>what if she leaves
that is what you deserve. If she stays, she is too good for you anyway
>what about fatty
Never meet with her again
>ill be a laughing stock
you sound like someone who just now realises that his actions have consequences. Yes, you are deserving of being single and a laughing stock

If you have any respect for her you should and accept what ever outcome she decides. You fucked up so handle it before the chickens come to roost and learn from it.

>someone who just realizes their actions have consequences
I really feel stupid. Thank you for your brutal honesty. I mean that.
>never meet with her again
That will be difficult since we work together
>too good for you
I already know she is. She got with me and was never jealous or weird (or fetishy like a lot of women are) about my past, the most she did was joke about it or have me do things just us.
You're right.

I think I'm going to. I'll see her tonight or tomorrow (she's visiting her grandparents who raised her and doing shopping for them so they don't have to go out during this virus shit) I'll work up the gall to tell her somehow. Fuck.

>that will be difficult since we work together
i don't know your financial situation, but do you really wanna work with her after this? I mean, every time you see her you will be reminded of what you did and what it cost you.
If i were you i would look for another job. It will be better for your mental health

I've been kind of half heartedly looking and putting out feelers for another job for after this shit passes. I kind of halfway hoped that if I DO get another job (and not go back to stripping) and just block fatty's number that she wouldn't have the guts to approach my gf and that she wouldn't just randomly show up at my house. But you guys are saying I should definitely tell my gf. Also, I know you said don't say "if you didn't tell them about my past (fatty) wouldn't have taken advantage of me." But is explaining fatty did take advantage of me ok? You seem to see this as kind of a cop out

>is explaining that she took advantage of me ok?
It is true that she took advantage of you. It still baffles me that you got drunk with her a second time but yes, she took advantage of you.
This isn't an excuse though. Fatty never made any promises to anyone.
YOU are in a relationship. You promised to be faithfull, and yet you didn't stay faithfull, you kept it a secret after the first time and even went back.

I have a feeling that you still haven't accepted that it is entirely your fault. you can say "i am so sorry" but if you then spend 5 minutes explaining how it "reaaaaaally isn't your fault if you think about it" you just sound like an asshole

That's fair. That's why I ask for advice here. You guys (and gals) don't let me bullshit myself.

>muh I woudln't cheat on my gf
>cheats

You are a man with no principals = you are not a man.

Like I said you are a loser and don't deserve any help or a gf. GTFO from our board you retard. Incels and permavirgins liek us would've stayed loyal you faggot loser

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I know I fucked up. I don't understand all of the hostility though. I feel guilty and naive and stupid. I can't be the first person this kind of thing has happened to though. I understand the helpful posts advising me what I have to do now, but I don't understand the anger directed at me

If she stays I'll never fuck up again. I didn't know I couldn't trust a coworker I saw as a friend! I felt horrible and dirty both times things happened. I'm glad I didn't go into further detail about the second time.

do you know though? because you are constantly talking about "what if she leaves" like you can still avoid it as long as she doesnt know

Not unless you are a female or a normie looking to talk shit. Then you will see nothing except how shitty incels and permavirgins are. That some how we will do all these things. EVen though we will never be given the chance but the people who are given a chance are exactly the ones who cheat and have shitty behavior. There is absolutely no fucking winning and interacting with the other gender might as well be an utter waste of time for us.

I guess it was fucked up to think that way. You guys have helped me realize I should tell her, but obviously I hope she doesn't leave!
I didn't mean to offend anyone here. And I've had ample opportunities to cheat in the past (with actually attractive women) but they didn't use all kinds of mind tricks and tons of alcohol to trick me. I stayed loyal. One of my biggest worries is my gf will be like "if you had to cheat, you did it with THAT fat ugly bitch??" Like it will make it worse for her.

GTFO of r9k. Most of us here would kill for the love of a girl and you cheat on your gf. Fuck off chad.

Why do morons have to assume everything is an offense when someone says something. But
>but they didn't use all kinds of mind tricks and tons of alcohol to trick me.
Is just a fucking excuse. No one made you drink alcohol no one twisted your arm into falling for mind games. If you really cared and really loved that person all you had to say was no and walk away. It really is that simple but you wavered you allowed it to happen so deep down you wanted it to. Because you are selfish and only care about your wants. You can try to justify it all you want but these are actions YOU TOOK. No one else. It is clear you haven't learned your lesson. You should just eat a bullet and let everyone else move on. Clearly you don't have the capacity to change.