>be me >23yo loser virgin with depression and anxiety >work in retail >work hard and put in extra hours so I get promoted to supervisor >finally have a shred of confidence because I managed to not fuck something up for once in my life >meet this girl who starts working there >we talk a bit and she seems cool >start to get feelings for her >feeling confident so ask for her number >she actually gives it to me wtf >we start texting a bunch, mostly just talking about our hobbies and what kind of movies we like, shit like that >decide, fuck it, ask her if she wants to come with me to get ice cream after work on night >she says yes >couldthisbetheone.jpeg >go out for ice cream >feel like its going really well >we spend almost three hours talking, laughing and having a good time >ice cream shop even kicked us out we were there for so long but we sat on a bench outside and kept talking for another 20 minutes. >only reason we finally go home is because they turned out all the lights and couldnt see anything >text her the next day asking if she wants to go on an actual date >she says no >confused so I ask her why >pic related is her response >all that confidence it took me so long to build up shattered in a single moment
Honestly why do I even fucking try? Women are literally impossible
If she was lower employee you are a complete retard for baiting a sexual harassment complaint.
Gabriel Allen
When you were on the beach, you should of kissed her
Nolan Ward
Is not that hard to figure out user. You are not atractive enough. Women will date unatractive males with incompatible and horrible personalities. Its your face.
Jaxson Gonzalez
I wanted to but I was scared/nervous She would push me away. Honestly I think thats probably where I fucked up but its still kinda messed up she wouldnt even give me a second chance.
She was less attractive than me honestly
Owen Turner
guessing you didn't initiate much physical contact OP you can't just talk to her for 3 hours and not at least try to get some hand-to-hand contact, that's the minimum, you didn't excite her, in any case she's made up her mind about you and that's not going to change anytime soon least you know for the next girl now also, try and keep friends with her, the easiest way to get a gf is to be friends with a chick and have her introduce you to her friends, good luck in the future
You did awesome user. But the mistake you made is that she wants something casual. A date is way more serious and strict. Casual leads to casual hanging out and sex. Dating leads to strict hanging out. Its difficult at first to understand this but youll soon see. You also work together which throws it all off too. You can casually sleep with coworkers, but nothing more.
Remember this, go casual with the girl first. She will be the one that ends up wanting to be exclusive. Going straight into relationships are a thing of the 90s, and anyone that wants to argue with me should ask themself if they use a housephone to call a girl they like to chat. Always talk to more than one girl, ideally 3, regardless of the interest level in the other 2. Your response time and attitude will be way different to girl 1 and you wont come across as needy, clingy, creepy.
Anyway you did good. You just gave the, I want a relationship vibe and not the, Im laid back and want to hang out vibe.
Luke Cruz
don't give up you're on the right path, you can't change from depressed and anxious autist to chad without failing a few times. most women are attracted to masculinity, if you don't act like a man they simply won't be attracted to you.
Zachary James
OP, it's great to hear you got the confidence to ask someone out. I'm sorry it didn't turn out like you expected. But please understand that she doesn't have to "like like" you just because you got along. Whether someone has romantic interest in anyone is subject to many things, all of which are at their own personal discretion. She was being nice, she may genuinely like you as a person and a friend. But if she doesn't see you romantically that's up to her, no way around it.
Please don't be discouraged. Keep that confidence you felt, and go at it again with someone else. Not every single outcome is guaranteed to be positive. If you give up after the first statistically likely "no-date" outcome, you'll never get a gf.
Brayden Barnes
I don't get this. obviously you arent going to have romantic feelings after seeing someone one time. ???
Jaxson Fisher
You didn't initiate sexy time and she got bored AF you even said you spent fukken forever chatting until the ice cream kicked yous out. She wants the 'tingles' and you didn't deliver my guy sorry you either got it or ya haven't nuff said
Jace Gomez
This actually isnt the first time I asked a girl out but its the first time in a long time. All other times have also been no. I feel like I Just keep fucking things up no matter how hard I try. Some small detail I miss or some stupid mistake I make because of anxiety. Women are so unforgiving for that shit and its really frustrating.
Idk things felt a bit flirty and she gave me her phone number and we texted a lot.
Chase Murphy
you're probably just ugly or there's something awkward about you. leave it alone. you did pretty good and landed a friend (probably)
Cooper Martin
I guess that's all there is to it OP. If there aren't any 'feelings' then there aren't. She can't force them and neither can you. Though the fact that she's unwilling to even ATTEMPT a date may suggest emotional baggage or fears.
Jose Wright
1. you're not attractive enough 2. that doesn't sound like a date but something you would do with your friend.
Looking back on when I went on dates I made your exact mistake. Let me guess you've never flirted, kissed, held hands with a girl yes? I'm the same and unfortunately there's no cure other than practice and lot's of luck. I'm also guessing you don't take social risks very easily? You probably have an unhealthy risk taking strategy. Me, I visualise everything in my head and draw from past experiences. Asking for someone's number? Easy, done it before. Going in for a kiss? wtf even is that? Never experienced it.
Blake Morgan
How fucking delusional do you have to be to assume that a girl is in love with you because you two go out and text with each other? Do you think all of your male friends are in love with you whenever you go out with them. It's possible to enjoy someone's company and not like them romantically. Stop being a spineless loser and take people's opinion of you personally. Would you want to date someone like yourself?
Hunter Clark
Bruh you are just an ugly incel.
There is no "confidence" for your receeding jaw and shitty genes
1. I am not that ugly, I have a decent face and I am an average weight But not buff. I am pretty short tho (5ft 5in)
2. Women normally go get ice cream with their male friends alone at night?
Are YOU delusional??? I asked her to go on a DATE with me, not have my fucking babies. Who said anything about love? Jesus christ you dont even Have to like someone to agree to go on a date with them.
Chase Russell
I can give you some advice but first I need to know if you are a shitskin hitting on a white girl.
If so, she was right to reject you.
Hudson Jackson
Not sure I need advice from a racist asshole but we were both white
Ryder Jackson
Nigga, you need to grow yourself some balls.
You think every other person gets laid and a relationship the very first time they ask someone out?
Obviously not, dating is a skill just like any other skill. If you don't try and fail and try and fail, you won't get better at it.
Getting rejected sucks. But that's part of life. Get the fuck over it and move on to the next one, she was clearly curious or she wouldn't have hung out with you so much so it's not that hard.
Be a man. Be an alpha. No women wants to be with a man who has no self worth. If you don't have self worth, figure out a way to get some and go and Fucking DO IT
I'm not the one bitching about women being hard to get and reading way too much into normal interactions. Pro-tip: women are also people too, despite what Zig Forums preaches. No one wants to date a fat smelly NEET. Stop bitching about your life and start learning how to interact like a non-retarded human being.
Alexander Ortiz
>Not sure I need advice from a racist asshole but we were both white
Kek sounds like you do, simp. But whatever. She probably sensed you have no in group preference and are susceptible to Jewish brainwashing and therefore you are too weak for her.
Zachary Cook
That type of woman is a woman who has already had a couple of relationships before meeting you. That is why I insist that a man who is a virgin must meet a woman who is a virgin. Dating is a game, and a woman or man who is good at it has a superior position over a man and woman who has no experience with it.
Noah Adams
>She probably sensed you have no in group preference and are susceptible to Jewish brainwashing The average girl doesn't spend 50 hours a week on Zig Forums so I doubt it
Parker Cook
>You need to degrade her and put her in the dirt.
even if you genuinely love her and hurting her makes you depressed.
Treat her roughly like deep shit, girls love to be dominated
>short sorry user but that's all she sees. unless she's shorter than you it's over.
>Women normally go get ice cream with their male friends alone at night? no, women normally go get ice cream with their female friends. If you act like her female friends she'll treat you like a female friend. Nothing wrong with getting ice cream with a girl but you have to show her it's a date.
Parker Long
Sorry your parents never held you as a child. I just came here to vent. Im not a neet I just said I had a job lmao. And what do you have? Its fucking hard out there being a shy man in the modern dating scene and I thought the people here would get that.
Lincoln Bailey
As a nonwhite who's unironically fucked 10+ white girls from tinder, posts like these give me motivation. Ty user. I'll think of you when lifting tomorrow.
Hudson Reyes
>unless she's shorter than you it's over. She was shorter than me but only by a couple inches
>Nothing wrong with getting ice cream with a girl but you have to show her it's a date. Yeah I definitely think this is where I fucked up. I keep beating myself up for not at least trying to touch her or something.
Caleb Brooks
Yes, no one wants to date some shy sperglord. "Excuse me ma'am what did i do wrong on our ice cream social? I know the reason you don't want to go on a date with me is because I messed something up. People can't enjoy each other's company without romantic intentions, right? Aren't you turned one by my emotional maturity and fragile ego?"
Cameron White
Be honest with yourself about why you like white girls. Its because you see your own race as inferior, and you crave an upgrade for your shit genetics.
>tinder
I'm sure they were creme del a creme, definitely not fat leftovers lmao
Christian Taylor
user, you sound underage. The people here are right though. Just don't get crushed by the blunt honesty. I was in your shoes a few years ago.
Elijah Perry
Ok I know that text I sent seemed insecure/cringe as hell but only asked that because I figured I had absolutely nothing left to lose because at that point there was literally no recovery.
Bentley Butler
Fellow manlet. It was probably that. You'll get 'em next time
Aiden Lewis
One of the most liberating feelings I have ever felt after becoming confident was the moment when I turned down a girl that I really liked, and really connected with, but wasn't attracted to. She wasn't ugly, or unpleasant. She was conventionally attractive and a great conversationalist. But I just simply didn't see myself being with her. When you are on the other side of rejection, and you can see that its possibly that you can not be personally attracted to someone who is attractive, then you gain a whole new perspective. You realise that you can be attractive and can be rejected. You realise that all those times, it had nothing to do with you. Its just the way things are. Hopefully, you can have a moment like this one day, and your rejections can make sense.
Jacob Howard
>work in retail >work hard Lmfao you retard Retail isn't the type of work you get invested in, it's a bottom of the barrel job you half-ass because you sure as fuck know your bosses don't give a fuck either.
>pic related is her response ... ? That's not a negative response. Why are you worried about that response. She's not attracted to you, so what?
Evan Cox
She didn't like you cuz you came off as a beta bitch, first dates are for fucking dumbass, next time stop thinking of her as your perfect waifu and seal the fucking deal dumbass.
>As a nonwhite who's unironically fucked 10+ white girls from tinder, posts like these give me motivation. Ty user. I'll think of you when lifting tomorrow. based pajeet from /plg/
Sebastian Wright
>Do you mind if I ask why? >so I just wanna know if I did or said something wrong? shut the fuck up. you need to radically change your viewpoint. unironically get some self esteem and realize that if a girl doesn't love you, she doesn't like you.
Jeremiah Diaz
The fuck lol? I like to fuck hot girls regardless of race. White girls are ridiculously easy these days tho.
Logan Gomez
Hey user, you shot your shot and it didn't go to plan, but at least you did. The fact you even went to get ice cream with her in the first place is a good indicator that you aren't a complete sperg. Keep it up and you'll find someone
I think your problem is that you've made out women to be some sort of elusive mythical creatures that you can't interact with. If it helps you be less autistic, just pretend you're hanging out with a guy. Definitely don't listen to the fucking bullshit PUA-tier advice that works on women with sub-90 iq. Fucking incels are always overthinking shit and coming up with retarded strategies to "get women", they're no different than anybody else. Are you telling me you would not act like a Stacy if you were born into a 10/10 female body?
Wyatt Hughes
Why is fucking white girls always such an achievement and badge of honor for subhumans? If they had the mental capacity to self reflect, they would realize they are boasting about claiming a prize from the superior race. 'Getting one over on the white man.' They inherently see themselves as inferior even if they don't realize it.
We barely think about them at all, but their lives revolve their insecurity having to live side by side with superior people.
Luke Morris
I got promoted and make more money now so I guess it paid off even if only a little. Plus I just have a personal belief in the value of hard work.
Gabriel Foster
>asking her to tell you something you did wrong every woman on the planet hates that. stop being such a bitch that feels the need to "cover your ass" by asking retarded questions
Jace Bell
Tell her you don't want to be friends. If she asks why, tell her that you're working hard on yourself to meet your personal romantic goals, and unreciprocated interest in the form of platonic friendship would hurt your confidence in that regard. Don't be a dick, just make it factually apparent that she was a failed attempt and you plan on moving forward with yourself instead of dwelling on past failure.
