How hard is finding friends past high school/uni in your cunt?

Unironically pick up a hobby. Cosplay did it for me after highschool/college.

I'm pretty sure high school was my last boom into having friends, not like i could keep any of them but i don't think i'm getting any ever again.

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Most people have their inner circle established at that point, and it's hard to meet new people that actually would care to hang out beyond one random night in a bar. I'm trying to cling to the friends I made in uni for that reason, because I know I'll be basically friendless if I stop keeping in contact with them. To be honest I don't really care about any people outside my brothers, and with other people it's more of an utilitarian relationship where we'll sometimes go out to drink or something. Although one of them wants to focus on making video games, so I'd like to keep on good terms with him because I'm also interested in that, even if it's a bit of a pipe dream from my perspective. For now I'm just a normal code monkey. Although on the work side your colleagues will probably also like to go out drinking in this line of work, since programmers seem to enjoy drinking for whatever reason. And I realize I've mentioned drinking like five times in this message, it feels like nowadays it's always something to do with drinking whenever you hang out with people. I can't remember the last time I met any of those friends sober to be hones

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are you a femboy?

Oh yeah and I should mention I'm 29, I started studying at 25 after a "few" years of doing random jobs and neeting. So if the people in this thread are on the younger side, it's still fully possible for you guys to meet new people, even if you feel like it's already too late at 22 or whatever

>Tfw no lasting friends from uni days

Based, some people just bloom late or get their shit together a little later. Good luck annon.

just talk to people bro

That's a shame. We had a Whatsapp group that everyone in our group were in when we first started at school. Now most people have graduated, but some people will still occasionally shoot a message like hey does anyone wanna go out for some drinks. Although at this point it's only like five people who still respond. But I'm fully intent to keep it going because I don't want to lose contact with those last people as well. There are a couple of people who I'll see maybe once or twice a year but we try to keep in contact and have plans. Three of us were planning on going to Japan at some point but corona-chan kinda cucked us out of that this year. Maybe next year

But I'd definitely say these friendships become more fleeting as you get older too. People have their own things going on and you're not really ready to randomly go out pub crawling on a Tuesday anymore. It shifts more into that category where you make plans to maybe do something in six months

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>Cosplay
cringe

I think it's a bit different over here in that regard. From what I've understood, in a lot of countries more or less everybody finishes their studies before 25, but here it's fully normal that people only start studying much later after doing random stuff for a while. Our group had people ranging from like 19 to 35, and I think that's really nice how that part of your life isn't necessarily over in your early 20s. Of course the older people didn't necessarily feel like going out partying as much, but they still got along with everybody the same as the younger guys. That also gives a certain kind of perspective to things, people don't really change that much after a certain point. You'll still largely be the same person at 35 as you were at 20, it's just that you have more obligations and you're probably just not physically capable of partying as hard anymore. We were hanging out this summer one time with the 35yo guy (now like 39), and he explained that he just physically can't really drink more than a sixpack anymore, because he'll get a massive hangover lasting for days otherwise. I guess I'm sneaking into that age bracket gradually as well, I'm hitting 30 soon so the alcohol will probably start hitting harder soon, especially mentally. The physical effects won't be that bad, but you'll just feel really fucked mentally which isn't ideal if you need to get work done

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I'd rather have no friends than the type of friends you make cosplaying

to all the cursed manchildren: its called business
start a fucking business
ive met a whole bunch of people through business, your business partners will become your friends
professional courses will be required, ive met a lot of friends while in welding and parachute jumping classes
later on you join clubs, tennis clubs, swimming clubs, golf clubs

>your business partners will become your friends
uh oh who's gonna tell him bros...

tell me what? its business after uni and highschool
i said partners not employees/colleagues etc, that's for lower class with not enough brain/initiative

Ultimately, as long as you have people to do stuff with, it doesn't really matter if they actually care about you. This becomes more true as you get older and people have less time. I'll gladly go on some kind of cocaine fueled bender with people I barely know, it's still socializing

That sounds nice annon, good on you for keeping contact.

It's easier to find the fucking amber room

what kind of business do you run that requires welding and parachute jumping certificates

what’s an amber room

>people don't really change that much after a certain point. You'll still largely be the same person at 35 as you were at 20
my biggest fear, theres no way im gonna be a functional 35er if im still like im 20

There was a room in the russian summer palaces outfitted with amber decorations. Cost a fortune but the original was lost after the nazi's raided the palace. They constructed a replica but the original has never been found to this day.

summer palace *
singular not plural

I make zero efforts to have friend, I just grind everyday.

I had like 3 close friends, one fell for the weed meme and dropped out of university, he lost it, he was my best friend since primary school.
The second one was a brainlet, it took him years to finish middle school, I moved out and I really had not interest in keeping our friendship.
The last one was a cool dude, but I went through an edgy "phase" in high school, I ghosted everyone including my parents.

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