OP, watch this:
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While your gf isn't as bad of a case as the linked video, the concept is the same. If you didn't let your gf know from the start that you would dump her if she let herself go, you already lost. Either don't push her to work out or just leave the relationship.
I don't having no girlfriend, that's why I have her now
I don't hate her, we get along very well, but I need a gf who's fit. Thought it's ok if I'm the only one in the relationship who's fit but it doesn't work
thanks
I'll let her know, fuck her
Video poster here. If you tell her to lose weight AFTER you committed to a relationship with her WITHOUT setting a "Don't let yourself go" precedent, there is no point in telling her now. Just say you want to see other people and move on. Or have a side chick. Regarding your reply to the other user about you not liking having no gf, you need to break out of that mindset. When you let yourself become desperate due to your desire to have a gf, you start making bad decisions in a scarcity mindset. You need to have an abundance mindset. The more girls you have options to pick from, the less you start developing an obsession to commit to one girl alone. If and when she finds out you have no other option, she loses attraction for you.
Remember this: women don't want to fuck men that other women don't want to fuck.
coming from a femnoid: no, she will never change. i couldnt get my ex to workout and getting turned on by his chubby body was really hard. your relationship has an expiration date
Seconded. I had a girl friend for a few years and I had to do things like carry her from bed to the bathroom to brush her teeth while she threw a tantrum. She'll have to be heavily micromanaged by "daddy" if you don't mind that. But seeing as she's so far away...
Keep her around but look for another gf. As soon as another babe with a butt is interested drop her lame yoga ass.
>doesn't suck my dick
why even bother?
Women don't respond well to direct communication, if you say
>hey babe wanna join me in the gym
She will think that you find her unnatractive and will refuse to ge because you hurt her feelies, doesn't matter you're intention, if tou find her attractive, or whatever. What you do instead is
>I'm going to the gym, do you want anything on the way back?
Then she is thinking about health and will say vegetables or something for a 'healthy dinner' or something, but she won't say candy. Basically you need to make it known that health and fitness is important to you and that she will pick up on it. Just put more vegetables into your diet and cut out sweets, try cooking together so you can influence her. Maybe do some workouts at home like skipping. Whenever she does some exercise or eats something healthy do something nice for her to show that you're paying attention, just don't say anything about exercise, you're being nice to her because you love her. Basically do everything but tell her your plan to get her in shape.
so talk to her and treat her like a KID, not a mature human being that can understand words... I mean it is easier to teach a fuckign dog than to teach woman take care of herself, glad my GF aint retarded kid and actually can do this without me doing mental gymnastics.
Sounds about right. Since I’ve been with my bf looking good for him has kept me super motivated. He doesn’t push me at all.
If you’re putting in so much work she should either be inspired or feel bad and want to do something.