This isn’t just an orgy, this is a Killing Kittens sex party
I can now tick ‘attended an orgy’ off my bucket list. Writing about sex has its perks. I’ve been to mistressing school and visited an orgasm guru all in the name of research. However, attending a sex party – even one as glamorous as Killing Kittens – was a little bit daunting. The event ‘provides a safe, sexual environment for people to explore their fantasies’ and derives its name from the expression that every time a woman pleasures herself, God kills a kitten in retribution.
Launched in 2005 by Emma Sayle , 33, Killing Kittens now has 22,000 members worldwide.
So how did the daughter of a diplomat and friend of the Duchess of Cambridge end up running a sex party? ‘Most other sex parties are run by men who had their own agenda,’ she says. ‘I wanted an event where women were in control and could feel comfortable. Killing Kittens is for couples and single girls only. Parties live by four golden rules. No.1: girls make the rules and only girls can break the rules; No.2: no means no; No.3: men cannot approach women; and No.4: members only.’ KK, once described by Marie Claire magazine as a party ‘synonymous with the world’s sexual elite’, vets all its guests. Only the most beautiful, intelligent and wealthy are accepted into the KK family. ‘Two out of every three applicants are turned away,’ says Sayles. So what happens behind closed doors? After roping in a friend to join me for the Hedonism party, we arrive at the Sauna Bar in London’s Soho district. A sexy man in black tie opens the door and ushers us inside. It seems like any other night out. It’s only when we’re asked to put on our masks – to give people anonymity and add to the intrigue – that I’m overcome with nerves. Killing Kittens is the brainchild of Emma Sayle (Picture: Rex Features) The bar area is decorated with ornate mirrors and candles, and out the back there’s a giant Jacuzzi and sauna, massage rooms with double beds and several smaller private rooms. Condoms are dotted around the bar and toilets. It’s not long before we’re approached by Georgina and her partner, Nate.
He is a KK veteran and she has been coming to parties since they got together about a year ago. They are both extremely attractive with beautiful bodies. I suddenly feel a bit self-conscious and am grateful for my mask. We explain this is our first time and Nate assures us this is the perfect event as everyone is friendly. As the conversation flows, Georgina politely asks some questions to gauge what we’re into sexually. Not wanting to disappoint, my friend and I feign a toilet trip and disappear into the crowd. ‘The good thing about KK is there’s absolutely no pressure,’ says Sayle. ‘If you just want to come and watch, that’s fine. Some couples just want to test the water.’ Polly, 33, and her husband John, 43, have been together for 12 years. ‘When I reached 30, I felt like something was missing,’ says Polly. ‘I loved my husband but hadn’t had many sexual partners and felt I might have an affair.’ They decided to try a sex party. Polly says they chose KK because it was the most glamorous: ‘We agreed not to do anything on our first visit and just chatted to lots of couples. ‘At the next event, we felt comfortable so we had sex with each other. Now I wouldn’t mind someone else joining in – male or female.’ By 10pm, there are naked people chatting in the Jacuzzi and by midnight, the private massage rooms are full of couples wriggling about on the beds, while others ravish each other in the corner. In the Jacuzzi, it seems anything goes. One woman has invited three men to ‘play’ with her. She looks like she’s having a wonderful time. Strangely, I don’t feel awkward or out of place. I feel quite liberated. There are still people fully clothed drinking at the bar and I spot Georgina and Nate getting down to business. Our eyes meet and I think how easy it would be to go over. The mood is definitely one of escapism. If I was single, I could easily get lost in the moment. Would I bring my partner? That would be telling. The next Hedonism night is June 28. Members with pre-paid tickets only. £100 for couples; £40 single girls. For details, visit www.killingkittens.com
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