Being expected to leave home before marriage around the 18-22 range is actually a relatively new invention for our era and not seen in countries like India that have much more focus on family unity.
You'd have 3 generations living there a lot of times.
It was better for the young adults to have living expenses to not worry about when trying to start their lives. Then they would get married and a dowry would be paid by the brides family, technically given to the bride as a gift, and used to help the new couple set themselves up for a new life. Theyd establish themselves alone for a bit as a couple. Then their parents would move in and take on the elderly wisdom role. The couple would become the parents. Their kids would be the new generation. Rinse and repeat. The family unit is strengthened. You have the wisdom of age. People know their roles all throughout the stages of life. Youll always have your parents to rely on, your children will have their wisdom growing up. The elderly will always have someone to take care of them with age.
Nowadays the pressure to "move out or you're a loser" has led to young people having little wealth to save up and build their lives up. The elderly are forgotten and sent to homes. The young are raised by the state and babysitters because the parents have to work due to wage deflation over the years (by design of business owners). Wisdom of the past and traditions are lost every generation where the young don't have the old there daily to ask advice
Gradually everyone moves up in social status with the father giving way to the son once he is an established grown man. You'd know your stages of life were
Plus getting rid of dowrys REALLY fucked couples. Now a super expensive wedding with no practical value takes the place of the dowry
The whole thing is set up so now..
Traditions are lost. Everyone feels much more isolated and depressed. Being individually minded isn't good. People feel much better with a group they are close to that are singularly focused on the family as a group and understanding that theyre part of something larger than yourself. Isolated and alone is no way to go through life. Add in debt and you have a recipe for disasters.
Also houses aren't really passed down as much from generation to generation, it sells more houses but we lose a lot with that too
You're not. No one said doing the righteous thing was the easy thing. Find a way, no matter how difficult, to make enough to support yourself. Then find yourself a woman and have kids.
If you're trying to be a good Christian why do you care so much about material wealth and appearance? If you work hard enough at women or work youll make a life eventually.
Your post is basically asking "tell me it's okay to ignore my morals and teachings so i can have an easy life"
If early christians could face lions and have dignity in death you can at least accept a living space properly earned over one taken through sinful means.
The sacrafices you're asking about is so far below what other Christians have put up with and held firm that i have to wonder if you're just a leftypol concern trolling as a Christian