Why do people kill themselves? I never understood this mentality.
My close friend's brother killed himself recently, apparently no one knew he was having problems or depressed except a close friend. It just came as a complete shock.
I wanted to tell my friend that "he's with God now" or something along those lines…but I'm not sure what happens to people who suicide.
Why do people kill themselves? I never understood this mentality.
Suicide is for cowards. Dying's easy, living's what's hard.
He's without God now
Its when a person reaches a point where their attachment to life has diminished to the point that suicide becomes a viable answer to the problem of suffering. Depression erodes ones attachment to life.
Then of course are simply those for who physical suffering reaches such an extreeme point life can no longer be bearable -for instance for the people in the World Trade Towers who chose to throw themselves out of the windows rather than burn to death.
Finally there are those who do it for higher causes martyrs (religious and political).
Not always, choosing life 99 times out of 100 is the easy option.
ya that doesn't make any sense to me unless the person has an objective physical disease causing them pain, even then there's always the chance of overcoming the pain and fighting through it
if someone is sad they should figure out why and overcome it, giving up is just senseless
If the suicide is a result of depression it can be from atrophy in the pre-frontal cortex and hippocampus. Prolonged depression and anxiety causes this atrophy. When the pre-frontal cortex is impaired, the logic center of the brain is not working adequately. Which is why depressed people take their life, from illogical thinking. If someone is depressed it is imperative that they seek help early on.
Suicide makes sense for an atheist. If you are hurtling unavoidably towards oblivion anyway, why not hasten the process, if life feels unbearable?
why do people want to increase the suicide rate?
What lever would happen if you normally die. King Saul and someothers in the Bible killed thenselves and are in Heaven
Good for f–king you. So you're one of those elite hardened individuals with a perfectly resilient mind that brooks no thoughts of despair. Hooray. You're 1337.
Make you happy to read that now?
No? Then why be so aggressive with your statement? No, you're angry with people who suicide. It's oozing from that statement of "never understood it". Normal people say, "I don't understand. Help me understand." Angry people say, "I never understood this". ie; "Why should they inconvenience my life with their bloody suicides?" Search your feelings, you know it to be true.
It always does. People don't talk to people anymore. And there is such shame associated with depression, that there's double the reason not to talk to anybody about it – particularly for men. Women, who have far better social circles than men and will talk about their problems, usually suicide because they have serious mental illnesses like bipolar or ptsd, not random shit like financial woes.
Individualism is a curse. Depression is the symptom.
I take it you're not a believer.
This is faulty logic. Only if the person is a true believer would suicide be illogical. Most of the world are not true believers. Without a devotion to god, suicide is the logical option for most people. The fact that most people do not take this option just shows the illogical nature of human reasoning. To have a permanent solution to the hollowness of life is defacto a cure all to a pure material world view. Philosophers so not puzzle over why people kill themselves, but why do they not kill themselves.
People kill themselves more often then not because their sense of joy is so underwhelming that its not even worth seeking out. Leaving nothing to strive for. Pain or suffering is generally not the actual issue (the rare medical suicides aside). Once pleasure has lost its flare, what else does this world over? The world has nothing else to give. Without something to strive towards life is easily valved less then death. This is why suicide is the privileged of wealthier life styles.
Seeking god,or seek something not easily obtainable (good family, wealth, prestige, ec…) can give life meaning. Meaning gives us a reason to suffer life, whether it be physical, emotional, stress, finicial, spritual, and so one. As long as meaning is in a persons life they value life more than death. But all non-spiritual things can be obtained and then people will find that it is not fulfilling to have. It is the striving for something that gives meaning. But for less spiritually developed or highly worldly people think that striving for sex, drugs, popularity- all easily obtained - is life. But no matter your pleasure you can only masturbate your senses with it so many times before it losses it flare and sense of reward. If a person has come to a conclusion that what used to give pleasure is dead and does not have any others to pursue to drive them, action and motivation fail to justify the suffering of waking up. This stage is where most suicides find themselves. There are other reasons but this is the most common.
I wanted revenge on a scale I can't see myself managing; I want to avenge historical crimes in addition to modern ones, and potentially future ones. I wanted to go to hell and get two things with me. A shovel and a chain. Then I would have dug hell deeper, and dragged others down. To show them equality.
Good. You're not the final say on the matter. Not all suicides are motivated as mine. Plus, the suicidal get a spiritual/mystical experience before their deed.
wew, you ok?
Dont worry time will cure your lack of empathy and understanding.
If you lose all hope, life becomes only painful. You want to kill yourself to end your misery. It's not that hard.
With some people, you may not even be able to tell that they're in a bad place. Introverts especially. They can be at war with themselves inside their head but show little emotion on their face. Or even talk about it.
They got tired of the game of life.
I actually though his 'rant' was very true and pertinent. Judging by the picture you attached, you're likely going through an edgelord phase though so I can understand why you might get defensive when presented with a statement like that.
Two kinds of suicides, the first feel no satisfaction from life so checking out makes sense to them, the other hates themselves and thus wish themselves ill. Both are pretty sinful worldviews when you think about it.
if you had suicidal thoughts then that's fine, but some people never have and find it hard to imagine such a mentality.
the spoiler message makes no sense, and was patently false.
I suffer from depression; in the past it was worse.
I attempted suicide because I believed I was beyond salvation and Hell was the only place I could end up in; life made no sense, I believed I was but scum and worthy of nothing.
because of something you did that was bad? or because you didn't achieve anything?
are you OP with a different ID? I wrote a long reply but I just realized you might not be him lol
If you kill yourself, you're not with God. You will be in the darkness of your own depression, but now your soul will embrace it without filter; with full senses, 1000times worse than it was in your body.
There will be no sun, music or any other external gift, which can soften the pain or even give new hope. No, you will live 100% in your inner self, separated from God, exposed to the demons you collected through life.
With God comes hope and hope helps to endure the pain life causes. If you lose hope, you lost God and meaning. Without meaning comes depression and decay of body and soul. From there it's a downward spiral. Something intense is needed to get back on your feet.
On a personal note, I think this "intense something" is Jesus but I don't know how to find Him. Nevertheless I realized that the thought of the probability that Jesus will someday help me out of this void is the hope I have and it keeps me from killing myself and helps me to get up in the morning and play by the rules.
You know the song:
If you don't believe there's anything greater, and you know for a fact (barring a complete rewrite of our understanding of physics/entropy in the next decade) that you're boned like every other mortal, once things seem irreparable, it is logical to call it quits and get it over with. At least, in that mindset.
Dude , you talk like an even edgier version of devil than devil
keep trying, it just takes time… perhaps a bit harsh, but one monk said that it depends on how many years we have lived in sin and disconnection from God
so he said like, if you're 40 years old you're gonna need at least 10 or 5 years to start opening the door to mental health. then, he says, when the light starts to enter the room, you gain hope and more strength and it's easier to move the door because the hinges have lost their grip
it's better to gain something in 10 years of hardship but know you have it and it's there, than achieve it in a week and become proud and end up worse than you were
im not the one to talk, but
tl;dr it takes time
Most relevant reply already provided:
Suicide is ultimate selfishness, it means you value your own comfort over everybody elses' misery. There is no virtue or bravery in it and anyone who thinks so is also tainted. It infuriates me when they write their little suicide notes "I'm so sorry for leaving you guys" or something along those lines. They themselves know the hypocrisy they are about to commit but do not really care.
Just let me be
It's simple; they're filled with despair. You'll never be to understand unless you become suicidal yourself.
That really depends on a person's value system.
Really makes you think.
"Philosophy is a rehearsal for death." - Plato
They just couldn't carry their cross and emulate Jesus's selflessness.
Robin Williams suicided and now people are doing the same. Life is hard and then you die. Christ gave his life for something but that's very different. People that commit suicide are egoistic.
When you are actually in the mindset of suicidality, oftentimes you think of yourself as a burden, and that your loved ones and the world would be better and happier if you weren't there. It's a terrifying mindset to be in if you haven't been in it before.
t. formerly suicidal
I nearly committed suicide in the past.
When things were at their worst, every morning I looked myself in the eyes and knew that even if I was somehow able to extract myself from the pit of bad decisions and destructive, self-loathing Depression that had made me lose everything, I would still have to deal with the consequences forever. My own sense of guilt was already so hard to bear; I couldn't deal with the weight of shame and any sort of embarrassment that it would cause myself or my family. Death seemed less punishing, less perverse.
It took me years to learn to deal with it. It was one of the hardest things I've ever done, and I understand intimately how people can give into it. It was like I was crawling along the edge of some giant chasm and all I to do was stop struggling and let go.
Sometimes I want to give up. Sometimes I want to put an end to everything.
But I wont. Lord have mercy on me.
We can't say this.
Catechism of the catholic church number 1861 :
Unfortunately, this is true for the most part.
So it's another way of saying, "We really don't know, God is the ultimate judge." Which is nice they don't contradict the Bible, however they are giving people false hope when the answer should be obvious.
Ultimately, if you're going to end your own life in a deliberate manner, are you doing it with the full blessing of Jesus Christ? Are you comfortable enough in your relationship with God that you will take your own life? Keep in mind that many Christians don't truly know Jesus (says so in the Bible in many places), so what does that say for those who do this grave act? Wide is the road to perdition, but narrow is the gate. Stay strong my brothers and sisters.
Sorry for your loss…I cannot fathom. This may explain it. There are some issues surrounding people with different belief systems in power. I hope this helps you. Not every one is nice in this country or the world. If you don't agree, they are simply bored or they just don't like you they can do these things. :
I can't understand the nihilists/atheists who believe they're gated on both sides by infinite oblivion. But they're currently living some life very distinct from that oblivion. Wouldn't it make more sense to experience more things, even endure sufferings, since it's so rare compared to the infinite oblivion.
But yeah it's a mortal sin and a guaranteed spot in hell.
You should never seek to understand this.
Some knowledge by and of itself can be harmful.
My explanation is this: Nihilism. I hated not only my life but the very fact of my existence. I condemned my very existence because if I never existed, I wouldn't have to endure all my suffering. The only cure to depression and nihilism is faith and a life-affirming worldview. It worked for me and I don't want to die anymore.
It takes balls to off yourself. It doesn't take shit to keep on living.
Most people need to reach out for help. This is especially hard to do for men, because they resent themselves for needing help.
God's mercy is stronger than any sin, but you should never expect mercy.
Indeed. Eathly pleasures are empty and offer no meaning and our world is destroying the very soul.
Same here. I'm glad you're better now.
Fear if hell is the main reason i have not committed suicide. I would prefer nothing to this life.
I should also be aiming for heaven, anotheer reason not to kill myself. But it seems like such a distant possibility to be honest
I think of it all the time because I fail at everything and it seems like I'm more useful dead. Its maddening how people like him don't understand its not about selfishness, most of them just can't bear it anymore because of people like you who would talk about how you should not be affected by things like that even though they would get angry and do reckless things if it happens to them.
what about saints or monks who wanted to die for Christ and looking for opportunities to die as martyr or searching for killer who would kill them for their faith?