Virginity as a stigma

Detach thyself. Detachment from world is the only possible way.

detachment is what creates fucked up people like me.

Detachment from the world doesn't mean detachment from the spirit. If you were detached from the spirit and the world, that would explain how you got messed up. Monks seem healthy and fine.

but how can people detach themselves from the world? it's called reality for a reason. maybe it is easy for brainlets, buts its not easy for people like me. Jesus is all I have left and the only peace I can fathom.

also i am aware my post might sound stupid, but it doesn't to me. and no, not babbes first extensional crisis.

We talk about different things I see

Then flat out tell them that you don't want to speak about sex. Now, when a friend talks about his sexual experiences I tell them that I do not want to talk about it unless they want to be reprimanded by me. Don't be ashamed of your biblical values; take the moral highground but stay humble.

Oh, don't get me wrong: I am indeed a loser, and my sexual activity (or lack thereof) is just as much a result of my upbringing as it is never learning how to "spit game" from my father or in general. I don't try to have casual sex, but I'd definitely fail if I did.

I can't really claim to be taking a moral high ground; if anything, I both don't have the option to have sex and happen not to mind so much.

Different ID but I assume you are OP. What is wrong with you? Why do you think of yourself so lowly? You are only a loser if you give up and give into your very insecurities you have amounted in your lifetime. If you don't have the power to change and improve, then trust into our Lord and Savior and pray to Him to have mercy on you and give you the strength to become the man you ought to be. You only should have sex when you're married anyways, so I cannot see how you not having options to fornicate is a bad thing. Now, I get that you are also unable to attract a woman the way that she desires you, but it is nothing you could not learn. Cut yourself some slack, many men grow up without (a proper) masculine role model and you aren't much to blame on how to do this and that with women because there is rarily proper guidance to find. If you haven't started, then you should stop masturbating and try to get into a daily routine, as well as doing (physical) work that fulfills you. With fulfillment and purpose you won't care as much about women and gain confidence without depending on the things that are expected by our degenerate society you'd have to do to be seen as manly; it's only a matter of time until you will radiate your God given masculinity as God intended, an females will take notice and, I can tell you, you will automatically know what and how to do to attract females of interest.

When I speak of detaching from the world, I really mean detaching from worldly desires (lust, greed, pride, etc.) as well as literally detaching from the world by joining a monastery. You're not detaching from reality, you're just detaching from the fleshly pursuits or, in the case of the monastery, the hubbub of modern society where one's fleshly desires are excited.

Not the same poster, but I disagree; it’s easy to say “it’s not me, it’s the environment in which I grew up”…and sure, it has some bearings on what and who we become, but it’s also how one react to these stimuli that matters.
Please, don’t get me wrong, because you are not completely wrong…I just think too often we rather blame something or someone else than accept our own failures and faults.