THE RESPONSIBILITY IS YOURS
As someone who is quite successful in finding a wife, seek to help my own sanity by keeping all the boohoo no-gf/waifu lamentations to one thread. You can't complain if you don't give it an honest try as anything is possible with God. I found my very own christ-chan, thank the Lord all the more for it, and seek to help you too.
SELF ESTEEM
is not the pride of life, we can't ever love someone else if we can't love ourselves as children and representatives of Christ.
>Get in shape. >>>/fit/
In relation to the above, you can't be a slob and expect to attract a 10/10, as its indicative of entitlement and egocentrism. A strong body requires a strong mind. Learn what your TDEE is, make a goal weight, learn to love skim milk, and make a fitness plan that includes light cardio, goblet squats, and romanian deadlifts at the absolute minimum. The person who God has for you will appreciate it, encourage it, and join you.
Be confident in what the bible says, and what's expected of you. A good marriage minded Christian will quiz you to see if you are legitimate in your beliefs or are just desperate for companionship. If you're a bible scrub, start with the minimum of proverbs, ecclesiastes, and the New Testament. Even at just one chapter a day, this should take you about 10 months to complete.
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We serve the eternal God, who is the very essence of Objectivity by virtue of being the creator who clearly defined the reality in which we live through His intelligent design.
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In this reality, we are called to cast aside as much as possible whatever seperates us from worshipping and glorifying our Objective God for our salvation via His Son Jesus Christ.
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Only Jesus can save us, but no one else is responsible for us as individuals in accepting Him as our Lord and Savior.
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Defined as "fairness and straightforwardness of conduct" or "adherence to the facts." Take an honest assessment of yourself, your desires, faults, and make a plan to reach your desires by minimizing your faults. Reconcile that you will need to be just as honest about what you find to your potential mate.
GENERAL EXPECTATIONS
Match your desires with respectable traits. The following is the ideal you should aspire to, the expectation is that you look for a person who has the same shortcomings you do. It helps that you explicitly state that the following things are potential deal breakers depending on taste. feel free to copy and paste this to your dating profile as needed.
Illicit drug and alcohol abuse are hedonistic by nature. No drinking is best, social drinking is acceptable but open to taste. Minimal (social) media consumption limits the ability of the devil to work against your life and relationships via its nihilist/hedonist leanings.
KIK/SNAPCHAT USE and EXCESSIVE SELFIES/SOLIPSISM IS A HUGE RED FLAG.
Tattoos, hair color changes and piercings are signs of self doubt, as the person doesn't believe that they are interesting enough on their own as representatives of a living God.
If you have them before salvation, understand that you potentially limit your dating pool.
This is where we most fall. The modern secular media makes it difficult to resist. No sex until marriage shows respect not just to your partner but to yourself. No fapping.
Virginity/never married/no children is the ideal, but if you lack one of these, you potentially limit your dating pool.
Dress and act respectfully in regards to biological sex.
-Men should have a sunday best for church (blazer, shirt, tie, slacks, and dress shoes), business and/or casual in general, and be assertive in regards to considering themselves, their woman, and the people important to each other.
-Women should enjoy wearing dresses and skirts in church and in public, use modest amounts of makeup and jewelry (if any), delight in submission, and earn respect of themselves from others.
At least once a month at the minimum. It is generally understood that people may have events that would keep them from church. To taste.
You both must want children and either desire or already have healthy relationships with family.
Recommended height up to +/- 9in or 22.5cm, aged +/- 10 years from each other. To taste.
Similar body types, gym attendance rates, intellectual pursuits, income levels, race, etc.
OPPOSITES ATTRACT IS A MEME.
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