Hello guys i have an issue, with sexuality and Christianity. See as a child, i have been molested several times by my neighbor which consisted of homosexual behavior.
and at times in my youth, although not all the time, used dildos anally through my middle school years and through high school years. i never wanted to have a relationship with another man always with women, until i had a crush on my best friend in high school (knowing that he dislikes homosexuals anyways) and he was a bit peeved and became a bit distant (obviously).
but now in college, I would still go against dating men and would exclusively try to only date women but still failed after 6 years without a GF. I didn't like the idea of dating guys, let alone kiss one.
But as obvious as this story is going, I met a trap (guy) online and became a bit intimate. it was a normal date, but it ended up with me getting my first Head. amazing as hell lasted 2 hours. and the next date was just normal.
I would always try to remove homosexual thoughts and would pray to not be gay, especially for the sake of my parents who are very against it. but i would usually relapse. and now that i met someone who i have interest with. i feel a bit more whole. but, im still going to keep my relationship a secret. I've just been afraid on how god might see me, and if he would banish me. i accept him as my lord, but if i keep going towards what feels right. i would be living a life full of sin.
You have only one lord, and his name is Satan. Cease your perversion immediately or else you will suffer eternally, in divine justice for the many evils you have done.
Adrian Morales
I'm praying for you user. My word of advice is to stop watching porn, or anything and anyone that arouses you, including entertainment if need be. Abandon your relationship. Get rid of all your sexual objects, reduce masturbation as much as possible, and pray daily, preferably with a prayer rule. You are not lost user, but you need to become vigilant against the burden you have placed upon yourself. Don't feel alone either, since with nofap everyone is fighting the same battle, just you more so than others. De-sexualize yourself, and in time these strange perversions will clear. May God have mercy upon us sinners.
Hudson Turner
Good job.
Noah Gonzalez
ty mate for the support
Nolan Edwards
The fact that you're laying this out on a christian image board means you're feeling at least a little conviction. Start immersing yourself into the word. Pray, read, pray some more. Start to love the Lord and slowly shed yourself of these sins.
Lucas Price
i dont support limited atonement however if you are not convinced or aware of why homosexuality is wrong, then i dispute your sincerity.
Cooper Howard
No if it wasnt for overbearing morals we wouldnt have mental illness and all those drug companies would go out of business. Everything is wrong so stay high on pills.
Charles Wood
Yay, I'm glad you posted here. It shows that you're interested in going the right direction.
Consider finding a priest, Orthodox or Catholic, and going to him for advice. Don't worry, they've heard shocking things, you won't (or shouldn't) make them angry. I believe that they'd be able to give you some great, personalized advice, much better than you'd get on an imageboard.
>"Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God." (1 Corinthians 6:9-10 NKJV)
Don't be deceived by how you feel, user. The Lord knows that you know it's wrong, and you will ultimately be held accountable for it when judgment day come, no matter what anyone tries to tell you. You have already committed great sin; your only option is to repent before the Lord and try to make it right, through confession and penance (turning away from your sin). Flee from your desires, and the Lord will replace them with pure and holy ones.
Levi Sanchez
God won't 'banish' you, he dosen't like that you became 'intimate' with a trap, because dating a trap is accepting a deception, it's a man playing a woman, you have women for women. God wants what is fulfilling for you. Focus on getting saved. Anything can "feel" right, there are transwomen who become sexually aroused at the idea of get genital surgery. Don't let your "feelings" guide you as if they're objective.
I have a question, you mentioned this line. which i believe is from the old testament. which is revoked by this scripture? Just asking. It's just coming to terms that i have to part with someone that i started to appreciate the company of. I know i must change, but im worried that i would continue in cycles like it has been going on for years. i'm pretty "straight edge" and hell, i don't even fap, i would consider this current issue as my primary vice at the moment.
i understand it in the sense that it's wrong in the religion? is that what you are going for?
sorry, but since i don't generally use the words you've wrote on a day to day basis. your first response says that, he won't send me to hell and would prefer for me to be "fulfilled" based on whom i've dated?
What words did i use that are strange to you? Why would you assume that God wants you to date a transwoman?
Luis Bailey
Priests are rats because they cant be sued. Never speak with a priest they are just as bad as the psychiatrists and prosecutors.
Owen Jones
Mostly Banish, the context that im assuming from your post is. sending me to hell. and no i don't think he wants me to date a trap, i just thought through how i read your post that fulfilling would be based on what desires i would want, i didn't read it as what is best for me.
Dam then i guess an anonymous image board is all i have
Julian Wilson
Why do you think that? That's quite the mocking picture you've posted. At the same time also symbolically says a lot about your harmful demoralized hedonism.
Read this story about another person who suffers from lust.
These line are pretty good thanks, had to read it twice to grasp that the water refers to the afterlife and how she admits to not loving her current husband. (i wonder if she left him) ok I'll tell you what i understand from it thus far. God won't send you to hell, but he hates that your homosexual acts, god wants whats best for you. Focus on fixing yourself How is it mocking? it's a dog being happy under a rainbow? are you interpreting the rainbow for homosexuality?
Correct. God wants what has the most long term happiness, not short term hedonism. Dating a transwoman will bring you not real family (when compared to a real woman), you can still have sex in a marriage with a woman but it won't be the focus and you won't be doing it JUST for the sake of carnal sin. Sorry, i read too much into it.
Jordan Johnson
what? either natural law convicts you that it is wrong otherwise you have a different law. it has very little to do with “religion” as you call it.
Benjamin Thomas
I second the following Sin is difficult, and I can tell with some immediacy that there are two things you need to get rid of right away that you tell yourself.
These are; 1) Because of past sexual trauma you are broken, defective or somehow beyond repair from the sin you were induced to against your will 2) Sexual immorality is not real, there is no "right conduct" regarding sexual behaviour
To the first point, you cannot sin against your own will, neither the people here nor God will ever blame you for this tragic event. That being said, it is a blatant lie to consider that you have been tarnished by it, your access to God is not more limited, even though an obstacle has been placed in your path.
To the second point, you have to forget the secular idea that sexual morality doesn't exist. This idea that sexual morality doesn't exist can only be arrived at if you have already rejected revealed religion implicitly, it is an impious idea that one can treat other creatures possessing a soul as mere objects to satisfy your sexual desire. Also it doesn't make much sense from your perspective, why would you consent to perpetuate the evil act that was inflicted upon you? May I tender the suggestion that every time you do so, you willingly give your abuser an implicit victory?
The very idea that comes implicit with the sexual acts you describe is a comfortable acceptance that you have been damaged, and a disbelief in your own ability to master yourself as a result. You cannot believe in your own inadequacy and lack of self-mastery and discover happiness, you must instead put on the armour of faith and if you suppose yourself to be broken, you must fix yourself even if it seems impossible.
Vid related for further encouragement.
Kevin Lee
Thanks made for clearing things for me I feel a way less anxious
Well I took a religious concept due to the location of where in posting. But in a Natural way I can completely understand in procreation and social structures. Although trek that to the two dogs that I'm dog sitting to stop dry humping for dominance.
Thanks for replying, yeah I do need to stop looking at that moment in time as the root of my issue. I've made so many excuse s regarding something that happened 12 years ago. Just as a note, it wasn't that I was molested for several months that hurt me. Its having my parents find out that caused me trauma since I felt like I hurt them a lot. I didn't want to talk to them about it since i saw my abuser as a friend. And I didn't want to lose a friendship or hurt my family. They kept telling tree that or wasn't my fault and that everything will be OK. But things don't go as planned…
Anyways, you confused me on your second point saying, Are you saying that I homosexual tendencies are making others as sexualized objects?
Aiden Wright
Just getting into the thread now user so haven't quite read everything going on. However That is not from the old testament user. That is a letter from St. Paul to the Corinthians in the New Testament. On another note you may want to look into this. I know what you're referring to. But what you are referring to is the mosaic laws, as opposed to moral laws. IE, laws for the jews, circumcision, no shellfish, bacon, no mixed fabric etc. These are 'revoked' or fulfilled by our saviour Christ.
It would be best if you try to stop it as soon as possible, the longer you put it off the more you will fall to sin and the harder it will be to break it off in the future. You need to do it now user, it doesn't sound like you're too far off. You can find a woman. And when you do, don't fall into lust like getting head. That is not good relationship material. Live for God user, and overcome the sinful urges that come to you.
Brody Anderson
This board is fucking trash.
Charles Mitchell
People like you are why I don't automatically hate all atheists, as annoying at they can be, because if self-righteous mongoloids like you were their earliest exposures to Christianity, I'd winnie the pooh hate it too.
Robert Lopez
Dude, you're going to need to get a Bible and read it. 1 Corinthians was one of the Apostle Paul's letters.
Dylan Anderson
Basically, but not just homosexual tendencies. It is a hard teaching to accept since our culture is heavily sexualized as well so people don't consider sex to be wrong outside of marriage.
Nevertheless, think about what it says to a woman; that you're interest in her only goes so far as stealing whatever she will let you have. No woman would ever have sex until marriage if they believed that you had so little interest in them.
Likewise homosexual sex is even more self-interested than this since there it is done with no view at all to even future procreation.
Eli Perry
Focus on getting saved, read the bible, pray constantly, go to a church (try to go at least twice a week) where you can talk to the priest/pastor without problem, Ask God to help you with your lust before it's too late. If you have questions ask your priest/pastor.
Charles Rivera
OP if I can give some humble advice from personal experience, as a person struggling with nofap (relapsing countless times) and a very weak will, cut off whatever leads you to relapse. For example lewd pics, messaging the trap guy, etc. and when you start thinking of lewd acts or start getting horny snap yourself out of it immediately, get up physically or read the Bible. I find that I relapse when I let sexual thoughts linger on my mind, which is why it's important to cut the thought off immediately.
anyway thats just my two cents, I pray that you can overcome this with God's help
