Not to go full Islam, but is it wise to nurture men-women friendships. From my experience, men who befriend women are either raging homosexuals or beta orbiters trying to enter a romantic relationship just by being "nice". Likewise, women who befriend men seem so attention hungry all the time.
What do you think, brothers?
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Where is the cut off between just a normal strong platonic friendship and emotional cheating?
If you get a boner thinking of the girl is that the problem?
That makes you the problem, and you should consider your thoughts and your heart. Nothing happens that hasn't been thought of first (subconsciously or consciously).
Would she be comfortable with the man's wife being with them when they're out being friends? If the answer is yes, then it's probably ok. Given that she's making excuses rather than just brushing it off, I'm going to guess the answer is no.
In fact, I recommend that any married man try to make sure never to go out with a woman alone just for the sake of appearances, even if there's zero chance of anything untoward happening.
Even secularists will tell you that there's no such thing as a platonic relationship between a man and a woman.
Probably got AIDS from another completely legit relationship that nobody was going to know about etc
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Sometimes boners just happen though, but you're right, one shouldn't dwell on it or do things that encourage or lead to one.
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