Why aren't you married to Lady Chastity brothers?
Even not being in a vocation, it is better to be celibate than to be married in the Kingdom of Heaven (though strongly consider vocations please). Marriage is for just a blink of the eye, but chastity and celibacy is eternal. Look at St. Paul here: "But I want you to be free from concern. One who is unmarried is concerned about the things of the Lord, how he may please the Lord; but one who is married is concerned about the things of the world, how he may please his wife, and his interests are divided. The woman who is unmarried, and the virgin, is concerned about the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and spirit; but one who is married is concerned about the things of the world, how she may please her husband. This I say for your own benefit; not to put a restraint upon you, but to promote what is appropriate and to secure undistracted devotion to the Lord." Why wouldn't you want to devote to the one you love above everything and who is actually above everything entirely? So go, achieve nofap mastery (it's piss easy honestly, just go to the thread, you can quit with no temptations and urges ever again bothering you), and become celibate.
And for you who would do it for family or posterity and family reasons, Tertullian: Therefore, whether it be for the sake of the flesh, or of the world, or of posterity, that marriage is undertaken, nothing of all these "necessities" affects the servants of God…"
And for those who say it's too hard, also Tertullian: ""But we read that "the flesh is weak;" and hence we soothe ourselves in some cases. Yet we read, too, that "the spirit is strong;" for each clause occurs in one and the same sentence. Flesh is an earthly, spirit a heavenly, material. Why, then, do we, too prone to self-excuse, put forward (in our defense) the weak part of us, but not look at the strong? Why should not the earthly yield to the heavenly? If the spirit is stronger than the flesh, because it is withal of nobler origin, it is our own fault if we follow the weaker."
Lady Chastity is waiting.