Here is the thing though, my case is a bit different than yours, in the sense that you had broken up with your ex, hence the ball was in your court, it was your duty to be humble re-establish contact, on the other hand my ex was the one that broke up with me, so it doesn't matter if I chase after her, I think she also carries that weight and guilt, but is up to her to realize it and open up. I already even tried talking to her on what was about 1 month ago, on day of my birthday, she didn't open up then, even though it had a peaceful tone. I would also like to open up to her and give her a help hand if she wanted to connect again, but it just wouldn't work, by doing that she just wont miss me, she just wont realize what she lost. The worst thing yet, is even I miss her presence dearly, I'm coming to realize that perhaps it really wasn't that good of a match, and that I could be better off finding someone else, which I guess is not worst at all, but a good sign that I'm getting over it. Another thing is that the birthday of when started dating is coming up soon, this oughta bring some memories, my best bet is to just keep cool and get over it, the ball its in her court if she wants to come around and really misses me.
By the way, this reminds me of the book I'm currently reading about women, it a passage that describe pretty much my exact situation, of a girl behaving as a complete partner at the beginning of the relationship, only to inflict pain later on when she start misbehaving, and as a final coup, break off completely when everything was seemingly so well. I still don't quite grasp why she would ever do that (or anyone for that matter), but apparently its a why to make the greatest mark, to make me forever a passionate slave to her, to never come to terms with it. This is why having the "ball on her court" is such a bad state for us to be in, we remain in the state of uncertainty and waiting, which is the worst state for a rational man to be in, I think I talked about this in the other thread, but by inducing this duality of feelings is how they manage to drive us completely mad.
You weakest chain link analogy is also a good one, no point just working over what you're already strong in, which brings me to my next point. I've guess these are the two things I need to work on the most, control over my libido and control over my neediness for affection, since these two are the strongest things that make me weak to these women's charms, this would also resolve my feeling towards my ex, to completely kill any expectation I have left. I've guess I was working out on these weak point of my, by taking public reading and being part of the singing groups, I managed to strike two birds with one stone, to be more outspoken, more confident in public, and to also feel as part of community around me, so I don't feel as lonely anymore, and of all of that with the help of intense praying and spiritual plea. My other weakest point is also finally getting up for work, I'm kinda doing well at I think, even though I waver in motivation every now and then, my area is pretty damn hard to find an opening in, but I'm following through and hopefully soon enough something should show up.
You're that same user I've been talking to in the last few moments right? You already have a current girlfriend, weren't you doing well with her?
If it is indeed you, your english used to be better, but don't worry, maybe you're like me and sometimes when we're tired, the proper sentences don't go out at all, it happens.
