I tried this for a while. It led to me laying in bed in a stupor for hours each day, ruminating over the past and future, remembering all my cringey embarassments and injustices and angers, having imaginary conversations in my head with people, giving them a piece of my mind or dreamdating the girls I was crushing on, and ultimately hating myself more for wasting all my time. No wifi, no cell data, plenty of books in the house, and I just lay in bed all day in a coma.
I realised it wasn't the internet that was the cause of the problem; sure it was the distraction that I used to fill the hole; but without the distraction the hole was still there. I have to tackle the root cause, not the bandaid.
Stepehn Pressfield calls this concept "Resistance" in his book "The War of Art", and it was this overwhelming spiritual resitance that was parlaysing me, not the distractions I was using to fulfill it.
Regardless, I now live in a house with flatmates, who are all internet users, so there is no way to escape the net. I have to learn to live with it in moderation. It is nice to have social interaction each day though, even if it's just a "hello" at breakfast. Makes things a bit brighter. Also forces me to keep clean and tidy and take pride in my living space.
Aaron Scott
Go ahead and add Hokuto no Ken to the God Tier list. I know it's memed as a MANIME お前はもう死んでいる！！But, the show really does teach good virtues. Kenshiro is a good role model.
Matthew Richardson
Understood, but I would think that rummaging within your own mind is far better for you than the internet. On the internet you are distracting yourself and not addressing the problem. When you lay in bed in a stupor ruminating you might not be actively filling the hole. However, your subconscious is communicating with you and the communication is clear as no distractions are present to break that line of communication. You get angry, you cringe, etc because you are having real emotional reactions and know that those situations were not good situations. You are actively thinking of avoiding them and how to improve. You won't experience that on the internet.
If you're anything like me, that emptiness is due to a tragic loss.
I don't try to fill it, it's a part of who I am. Trying to fill that emptiness with something that has no chance of ever doing so is simple trying to ignore that that event already occurred.
Don't expect anybody to ever understand, and don't wear that shit on your sleeve. The people that do understand typically wouldn't press the matter. Having a darkness and an insatiable hunger comes from not wanting to experience that lose again. Those that don't understand, typically don't understand boundaries and some things, you just don't bring up.
You can't talk the feeling of loss away. They won't just disappear because some person you don't know gives you a hug. Those feelings never go away. If you're lucky, you're a psychopath so you can lock that shit away and it never really effects you until you access those memories.
Hunter Lee
I've heard that too. I typically stay away from the science argument, since I'm not a scientist, nor do I trust science funded by jew money. One thing everyone can do is try a diet for themselves and see how they feel on it. No authority needed.
Nope. Just looking to increase my confidence and thus my chances of getting the best partner I can get.
Parker Allen
I've been on nofap for close to a week now. The urges are still managable, but I haven't ever been able to make it past 2 weeks. Any tips on distracting myself when i feel the need to masturbate?
Christopher Robinson
Keep a picture of your dad handy. One where he's looking at the camera.
Michael Bailey
christ, user
Kevin Russell
I can't tell if you are memeing me or not, but either way, let's say that's not currently feasible. Is there any mental technique that can help get over the hump of urges? And are there any anons who have successfully gone perma no-fap to share wisdom with us?
