To be honest, you dodged a major bullet. She was given over to her passions and maybe a Jezebel spirit of rebellion. You're better off, and when you're feeling better after a few months or so, you will be wiser in your search for your wife. She is out there, waiting to be found.
Help with breakup
Brody Jones
Levi Butler
Thank you brother, just having another person next to you feels warm and comforting to me. I wish so much to find her, but I believe that the Lord will make it happen when it needs to happen.
Jacob Walker
Don't beat yourself up too much over this.
She didn't love you for who you are, she just loved your potential.
Women like her are dime a dozen, and quite frankly, they are also the vast majority of all women. It is a very good thing that you stopped masturbation and porn, keep that up, but take credit for your own accomplishments as well and don't act as if your efforts were her doing.
You owe gratitude only to God, not to some girl who dumps you over something as frivolous and meaningless as "unhappiness". When you love someone, you stick to them, no matter what. She didn't love you. If she did she'd still be at your side.
She said she was unhappy, but that isn't your fault either. She wants more. Wanting more is the root of all unhappiness. She should've been instead grateful for what she had and be content, while slowly working her way towards even greater fulfillment by preparing to be a good mother for you and your children. She believes that the grass is greener on the other side, but she will be thoroughly disappointed when she realizes that no other men will make you happy. She is unhappy because she considers most things to be below herself.
Contemplate your relationship and learn the lessons that it taught you.
Don't pretend that this relationship was only for your benefit and to her detriment. Look at your relationship and you will see that she benefitted from being with you and she just wants to monkey-branch her way to higher status.
The pain you will feel is disillusionment with love, relationships and women. It will pass in time and you will be able to see women for what they are and you'll be able to tell valuable women from shallow harpies.
May God bless you and soothe your pain. I'm sure you'll find someone much better, however a pro-tip from someone who had a very similar thing happening to him half a year ago: Practice discipline and get very good at a skillset. That is the way forward in this world and it will help you achieve emotional stability, and confidence. Mourn your loss, but learn to move on. And please, please, PLEASE ban her on all social media and avoid seeing her. It is the best way forward.
Samuel Thomas
She believes that the grass is greener on the other side, but she will be thoroughly disappointed when she realizes that no other men will make her happy.
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Ian Garcia
Also, here's a bit of advice:
It might not be the best idea to pray for her.
I prayed (and still do) pray for my ex and it's probably the reason why it was so hard for me to move on.
I prayed the rosary for my ex's salvation and eventual conversion, but really that just reinforced my attachment.
I'm not saying your ex shouldn't be prayed for, but I am saying that for your own sake maybe you should NOT keep her in your mind and your heart any more, then she's already there.
I know this is controversial advice, so take it or leave it and other anons, please give your input.
Jacob Wood
Brandon Stewart
Remember lads, you almost never matter to her as much as she matters to you.
For real OP don't stress this one, you're stil very young and women like her are numerous, accept that she wasn't special and just move on.
Jose Evans
I've met quite a few Protestant women my age who believed the same. I had one girl who was interested in me (her friend informed me), and once that girl said "I'm pansexual", I lost all interest in her. That label alone suggests they're deep down the rabbit hole of sexual immorality and embrace it as an identity rather than repent. I'm not going to waste my time on someone like that… besides, the only women who use those labels are feminists, and again, why waste my time even thinking about someone like that, let alone dating them? You shouldn't either, friend.
I grew up Protestant, and that's very accurate. It's rather ironic, as my Prot dad was very "hands-off" with my faith growing up (never took me to church, rarely talked about the Bible, and he didn't seem to care I was becoming atheist), and yet once I got back into Christianity and converted to Catholicism, he became assblasted over my decision… evangelicals.
Liam Robinson
What did he do? Just curious.
Cameron Flores
Maybe this is a good idea. We will pray for her on OP's behalf and he will be permitted to move on with his life.